Breaking up sucks, but it happens. It comes with being in a relationship and the worst part is most people don’t even know they are setting them up. I’m sorry if I have to be the one to break this to you, but not every relationship is going to last forever.
This shouldn’t discourage you to not get out there and date, but you should at least be aware that the chances of many relationships working out, especially relationships between Generation Y-ers, are slim.
Post-breakup is a sensitive time for both parties, well… depending on who broke up with who and how long of a relationship the two of you shared. Regardless of what caused the split, certain practices should be avoided post-breakup to ensure the well-being of those involved. Following these guidelines will help you move on, and learn from the experience to have a more prosperous future in the world of relationships.
Don’t call your ex every time you think of them. The “Oh I just drove past this restaurant we went to with your parents and thought I’d call to see how you were doing” trick isn’t fooling anyone and it most certainly isn’t going to help you move on.
Do not head straight to social media. I’m serious. Don’t even retweet love quote pages. One… because that’s stupid and immature, and two…because everyone will know who you’re referencing and that just makes things even more uncomfortable.
Not everyone in this world needs to know that you just broke up with your significant other, so please keep that information to yourself. I promise you that spilling your emotions to the Internet to a bunch of people who essentially could not give two shits about you will not make you feel better.
Do not try to maintain a friendship with your ex. I’m guilty of trying this once (hey, I’m woman enough to admit when I’ve been wrong) and it did not work. As much as the two of you say you’re “just friends,” we all know this couldn’t be farther from the truth.
At one point, there were strong emotions tying the two of you together, and trying to maintain a relationship with your ex will only create jealousy, anger, and sadness. Delete them from Facebook, unfollow them on twitter, remove their number from your phone, and I promise you getting over them will go much smoother.
You don’t need to see what your ex is doing and they most certainly don’t need to see what you’re doing. Being single is about having fun doing whatever the fuck you want to do… so why would you want to complicate that by having someone from your past come in and try to prevent that?
And finally…. Do not rebound. It never works. Rebounding is fun at first because you have someone to spend time with and fill that relationship void you’re currently experiencing, but in the end, it’s never going to work out. You’re going to resent that person for not being your ex and failing to give you what you really want.
Ally | Elite.