Women Get Real About The Size Of The Best Dick They've Ever Had

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Guys are very enamored by the size of their penises. I'd go as far as to say men care about this facet more than women do.

But there's a reason for this: We've been pressured to think we're not big enough. And according to testimony, we aren't.

Porn has set unrealistic expectations for men and women alike, and the Millennial generation has been most affected as we've grown up with unlimited access to porn, where the smallest penis you'll find on any streaming site is eight inches. This is a measurement only three percent of American men can identify with, so says a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

What is considered average, according to the study? 5.6 inches, which is not ideal, according to another study from UCLA and the University of New Mexico that found that the ideal penis (according to the 75 women surveyed) is 6.3 to 6.4 inches.

So, again, we fall below expectations. Before we even engage in sex, the odds are stacked against us. This kind of thing understandably affects a guy's self-esteem and results in men feeling as though we have to lie about our size so we aren't judged too cruelly.

So, to skirt around the oversaturated idea of “is bigger better?” I rephrased the question to (hopefully) develop a more truthful outcome.

I asked, "How big was the best dick you've ever had?"

The question posed revolves more around respondent's best sexual experience, where they were asked to describe the penis size attached to this person they shared the experience with, instead of blatantly asking for an ideal size in general.

As I had hoped, the results proved effective. See what people had to say below.

1. Not too big, not too small.

The best size is a nice average of six inches. Honestly, I wouldn't be one to say size matters. [My boyfriend's penis] was the most beautiful penis I have ever seen. Truthfully. It wasn't awkwardly small, too big to feel anything without some pain and it was overall a nice length and girth. My worst experience was with a guy who was so small that I literally wasn't sure if anything was going on down there and it was awkward AF. Then there was the emotionally abusive jackass with the nine inches that only knew how to jackhammer and nothing else. Bigger is NOT better.

— Holly, 24

2. The right coital movement makes all the difference.

The best penis I ever had, though average in size (perhaps a bit under six?), was attached to a man whose coital movements EXACTLY matched what I needed to reach orgasm easily and delightfully. I don't recall who it was who said, 'It ain't what you got, it's how you use it,' but it surely applies here.

— Cynthia, 72

3. Big is good. Bigger is not.

Well, I cannot say it was the best, but I had a friend so large that we couldn't have sex. It wasn't possible. In others words, 'big' can be too big. Fortunately, my husband was the best penis I've ever had (and yes, big is better). I'd say the best is about eight inches. You see, it also depends on the size and 'length' of a woman. That is important.

— Carol, 44

4. The love you have for your partner is what's most important.

A penis that's too large hurts. It doesn't matter how many times you have sex with the guy, if the man is too big (especially if he's selfish), intercourse is painful. I don't know the exact size of my ex-husband's penis (my best guess is at least nine inches), but almost every encounter I had with him was painful. After we split up, I hooked up with my first love. Again, I don't know exact size (about six and a half inches?) but sex with him was always amazing. It was the perfect fit. He took me to places no one else ever has and I doubt if I'll ever find anyone like that again. It really is about loving the person you're with.

— Becky, 55

5. His size doesn't matter once you've established a long-term sexual relationship.

The best sexual experience was with a guy who was roughly 5.5-6.5 inches. It's best because we just know what the other likes after years and years of a successful no-strings sexual relationship. Too big isn't good. It's painful. And when you find a position you aren't in pain with, you have to stick to it. And that's boring.

— Sarah, 27

6. Get intimate with the clit.

While I don't have a tape measure in my sexual tool kit, I can assure you the biggest penis I have encountered during sex did not translate to the best sex I've ever had. Actually, the biggest penis I've encountered may have been the worst sex I've had. (Perhaps this was due to his inexperience, being too drunk, the lack of chemistry, who knows!) I, similarly to most women, find it very difficult to actually have a vaginal orgasm and often climax via the clitoris. That being said, strictly size will not do the trick. The combination of clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration definitely results in the happiest ending, and this is a skill that not many men have mastered yet (or at least not in my experience). To answer the original question, the best sex I've ever had was with a penis that was approximately seven inches long.

— Deanna, 24

7. Knowledge of each others' bodies is most important.

Well, I'll have to say it's my husband, but only because he's learned how to use it. He is uncircumcised and probably about seven inches. It's the best because, like I said, he's learned how to work it and use it the right way. All of the other people I'd been with, I hadn't been with them long enough to really get to know their man parts. As such, I didn't always have satisfying sex with them all. I'm not sure If it has to do with his size or the fact that our connection makes it so intense, but I do know he's all pleasure.

— Kat, 29

8. When you're average-sized, it's all about skill.

The best sex I've ever had was with a guy who was probably about six to seven inches — a bit above average. His adequate size combined with his lovemaking skills took me over the edge. So much, in fact, that I made sure we secured a FWB relationship. His size worked well for me because it didn't hurt, but it was big enough that I could feel everything. The worst case scenario is when a guy is too big and you can't really fool around with different positions because everything hurts.

— Mandy, 32

9. Generosity is key.

Believe it or not, the best penis I ever had was actually below average, under six inches. I don't know how he did it, but the guy could work his below-average penis better than a guy with a bean pole. I've been with guys at both ends of the spectrum, and this guy was by far the best. He was generous, passionate and wanted to make sure that I'd achieve orgasm before him. It was wonderful.

— Stephanie, 40