The Game: Guys May Play It, But We Invented It

by Amanda Redwood

The game: everyone bitches about it, but sadly everyone engages in it. The game is the art of acting evasive through text messages, personal exchanges and in-person encounters. We strive to act disinterested in hopes that this will make the person more interested. How the f*ck does that even make sense? The whole concept of playing hard to get makes sense up until a certain point. Once you have this person interested, shouldn’t you stop playing hard to get?

We place all the blame on men for playing these games, but honestly it's the females who invented this concept. Guys love a challenge, but it comes to a point where guys don’t want to waste their time preoccupying themselves with utter nonsense. If you continuously act disinterested for too long, he will eventually give up. He wants the bullsh*t cut out and the truth laid out in front of him -- as well as your naked body. If you like him, let him know and stop confusing the sh*t out of him because you think it’s what he wants.

Why do we put ourselves through this confusing sh*t? We over think text messages and other exchanges and think there is a deeper, alternative meaning. Sometimes what people say is actually what they mean -- I know, shocking. Literally, just yesterday my friend and I were agonizing over our respective “people’s” (or whatever the f*ck you want to call them in this day and age) text messages. Like why? This texting crap is actually bullsh*t.

We are in our 20s, people! Aren’t we a little old to engage in this psychological warfare? The thing is once we hook these people and they catch on to our games, they play them back. Then we get pissed and confused as to why they aren’t immediately responding or asking us to hang out. What’s the end result of this? We actually start liking them. This. Is. Retarded.

We think by playing hard to get we will eventually get what we want. Maybe this is true, but isn’t it a lot more efficient to be up front and honest? Time is moving way too quickly too waste time on this petty nonsense. Honestly wouldn’t it be better for everyone if we just stopped playing games? Where’s the fun in that you may ask? A better question would be where isn’t the fun in that. I understand the chase is enticing and exciting but keep that shit to a few weeks max, not month long endeavors.

Women like to weigh their options, which is probably why we pull this sh*t. If you think the girl you’re talking to is only texting you, well my friend, you are sadly mistaken. Regardless if these are her “guy friends,” she always has someone on the backburner. Never make the fatal error of believing you are her only option. Don’t treat us like we're lucky to be talking to you because you better believe you are the lucky one.

This is another reason why games are inherently stupid -- everything is an illusion. Nothing is what it seems on the surface. You could be thinking things are going great, but that could be the complete opposite story she is telling her friends. No one is ever what they seem and this couldn’t hold truer than in a dating sense.

If you are busy playing these games, how the f*ck are you supposed to “define” what your relationship actually is. Are you exclusive? Are you dating? Are you casually hooking up? Are you friends with benefits? WHAT THE F*CKING F*CK? I’m already confused. The kicker is neither person wants to be the one to bring up this conversation because then you lose the game. No one wants to be the “creep” who asks the other person what “this means.”

Ladies, it’s time to stop bitching about the games men play. Take some responsibility and take a look at yourself and realize why they do this sh*t. Drop the illusion and see how your dating life changes. Thank me later.

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