What It Means To Have A Sex Dream About 'Spicing Up' A Married Couple's Sex Life

Here is this week's submission from Ava* who dreamed about getting involved with the sex life of a married couple:

I had a weird dream where this older guy (about late 30s) asked me to hang out with him. In the dream, I knew he was married so I thought nothing could happen between us. We got in the car and I'm sitting in the back. He pulls over and sits in the back next to me. We started having sex and I asked, "What about your wife?" He says she's OK with it. The next thing I knew, I was having sex with him at the house with his wife right there.

Then, I made a relationship deal with them that I would continue to be sexual with them to "spice up" their intimacy.  It was so uncomfortable to dream that. Could it mean something?

Here's Lauri's interpretation:

Yes! It most definitely means something. All dreams do. To dismiss a dream as meaningless is to dismiss a very important part of your mind.

To dismiss a dream as meaningless is to dismiss a very important part of your mind.

That being said, the discomfort you felt from this dream is directly connected to an issue in your real life that is uncomfortable for you. And this dream is trying to help you with it. The man in this dream most likely symbolizes your own "male" qualities, meaning the part of you that "has balls" and can be assertive. He is older because this uncomfortable issue in your life requires you to "grow up," "man up" and handle it. This is also why you are in the back seat: because as far as this particular issue goes, you are "taking a back seat," rather than taking control. The sex you have is actually symbolic of merging those male assertive qualities into your personality and/or behavior. Remember, sex in a dream is rarely about a physical union you want, but a psychological union you need.

Remember, sex in a dream is rarely about a physical union you want, but a psychological union you need.

The wife adds an interesting element to this dream and the deal you make with this couple is symbolic of something you've agreed to do in real life... something you feel obligated to do but don't necessarily want to do. Such is life, right? Nonetheless, in the dream you're agreeing to spice up their sex life, which means you're "manning up," stepping up to the plate and following through with this uncomfortable obligation will wind up improving YOUR life. So the message of this dream is: It takes balls to step outside of your comfort zone, but when you do, you'll find life gets quite spicier!

OK, so turns out there's no need for Ava to be concerned... like at all.

This dream doesn't mean she's some sort of kinky sexual freak trying to get involved in a failing marriage. In fact, the sexual dream has barely anything to do with sex at all!

It's time for her to face the real life issue that's making her uncomfortable and get to the bottom of this dream once and for all.

I hope this was helpful to Ava and anyone else who's ever had a similar dream.

*Names have been changed.