How To Have Skype Sex With Your Partner When You're In A Long-Distance Relationship
I was in a long-distance relationship my freshman year of college that consisted mostly of video-chat sex. And my ex-boyfriend and I did it entirely wrong. We had no clue how to have Skype sex correctly, and we made a ton of mistakes that made us both want to throw our computers into the ocean.
Listen, video-chat sex can be awkward and embarrassing. What are you supposed to say? Is talking dirty too much? And what do you wear? Do I just sit down naked at the computer and surprise my BF? Do I masturbate, or do I use a toy? What do I do if my partner finishes before I do? What happens if your roommate walks into the room? (This happened to me once, and I broke my lease and moved out.)
There are a lot of moving parts when it comes to online sex. However, it can also be super fun and absolutely beneficial for your long-distance relationship, if you do it right. In fact, it's a pretty important factor in staying attracted to your partner when you can't actually see them IRL.
So here are five tips for having hot Skype sex with your partner in a long-distance relationship. Because you gotta keep the romance alive in your relationship, right?
1. Set The Mood
You know when people try to take hot selfies in their bathroom, but all you can focus on is the clutter and empty toilet paper roll? Yeah, you don't want to be the Skype sex version of that. So before you get to doin' it online, make sure that you've set the mood.
First off, clean your damn room. Make your bed, or at least arrange the pillows on your living room couch nicely. Light a few candles, dim the lights, and hide those piles of clothes you have lying around your apartment like a minefield. Maybe even create a sexy Spotify playlist and have it playing in the background while you connect with your long-distance lover. However you'd want your home looking in real life before doing the deed, you should still have the ambiance feeling sensual during a digital get down as well.
Just because you're video chatting, doesn't mean that's an excuse to throw tiny details out the (browser) window.
2. Check Your Wireless Connection
While you might want your partner to be buff, the last thing you want is for your connection to be buffering. So before you engage in some Skype sex with your SO, make sure you check your internet connection first. The last thing you want is a connection outage right before orgasming, or a disconnection during dirty talk. It's certain to ruin the mood and your climax.
3. Dress Up For The Occasion
Don't show up for a sex session in sweatpants, even if it's not happening in person. When you're in a long-distance relationship, you have to work harder to keep the romance alive, so that means pulling out all the stops when you have date nights or a sex sesh with your partner.
Invest in some sexy lingerie that you can incorporate into part of the routine. Since you can't have physical foreplay in the traditional sense of the word, doing a strip tease might be the best way to ease into a potentially awkward situation. Allow for your partner to compliment how you look, maybe engage in some dirty talk, and then, take the conversation to the next level.
4. Get Into It
This means putting on a little bit of a performance. Anything you'd do having sex IRL to make it that much hotter, do while having sex on your webcam as well. That means still engage in dirty talk, moaning, and heavy breathing, however unnatural these things may feel since you're alone.
Remember, Skype sex is supposed to be an interactive event between you and your partner, so make sure that they feel included and responsible for your orgasm. You want them to feel like they are right there with you. And to do that, you've got to get a little bit porn-y during the experience.
5. Make Sure You Both Get Off
When engaging in video-chat sex, it's important that both you and your partner orgasm, otherwise, you're just watching someone masturbate on camera, and there's porn for that. Skype sex is a way to keep the physical aspect of your relationship alive while you're doing things long-distance. That means that it should replicate actual sex as closely as possible and work to foster closeness and intimacy between you as a couple while you're away from one another.
So if one of you climaxes before the other, make sure that you keep going until both of you finish. That's the number one rule of Skype sex: It's for both of you.
Video chat hookups can be a totally fun experience with someone you're dating if you do it right. Keep it fun, lighthearted, sexy, and make sure you're engaging in some role play so you both feel included and responsible for your partner's pleasure. Oh, but one last thing: Make sure they're not taking any screenshots without your permission. That can be bad news.
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