Debunking The Double Standard

by Ashley Fern

Why is it commendable when a guy goes out and bangs a different chick every day of the week, but when a girl does the same, she’s a slut? This is a long-time debated issue, but in today’s times, it’s more important than ever.

The term 'double standard' refers to the different societal norms we place on the sexual behavior of males versus females. It is promoted throughout our culture that women should have more sexual restraints than men, but why? Shouldn’t we be promoting gender equality? The belief that women and men are held to different standards of sexual conduct needs to become a notion of the past.

"Double standards don't work in relationships, if you don't want them doing something, you shouldn't be doing it either."

Guys want a girl who will have sex with them immediately, but if she does, he thinks she’s a slut and if she doesn’t, then she is a prude. Make up your f*cking mind; there is no winning here. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. This double standard allows for greater sexual freedom for men than it does for women. Who the hell made that rule?

The paradox of the slut/stud baffles me. It does not make the littlest bit of sense. Why does sex make a woman dirty or unclean? It doesn’t, it makes her normal. Are you losing a sense of your moral compass when you engage in sexual behavior? I think not. If anything, you are gaining more of a perspective by taking part in different types of conduct.

“My greatest hope for you is that you grow up to one day have lots and lots of different sexual partners -- oh wait, no, don’t do that -- sorry, I thought you were your brother.”

If you are going to ridicule women for having too many sexual partners, the same standards need to be applied to men. Both sexes should be held accountable for their own choices. There needs to be a shift in the way people judge others' sexuality. Whom you choose to be intimate with may help or hurt you in the long run, so everyone should be selective on whom he or she chooses to share themselves with.

The double standard transcends the bedroom and seeps into everyday life. Why do people falsely believe woman can’t have unemotional sex? We are just as capable of any man in this department. And, honestly, there are just as many men out there as women who are incapable of unemotional sex. Each gender is perfectly capable of catching feelings; this is not just exclusive to females.

"Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself — double-standard."

I don’t care if I can get into a club faster than you can or if I can get free drinks if it means you will constantly belittle me because of my gender. Let’s talk about a very common phrase: “one of the guys.” Why must a girl who is “cool” and “chill” be labeled as one of the guys by her male friends? Can’t she just be a cool, down-to-earth chick? Why is this a trait that only men possess?

How about the other common phrase that usually ends with “for a girl.” You know you drive well for a girl or you’re funny for a girl; why must “for a girl” be added to the end of that statement? Can’t you just be that way because you are a person?

Men you are just as competent as a woman in regards to making your own damn sandwich. Chances are you are probably better at it than we are since you are the one who is going to be eating it. No one prepares food you are going to consume better than the consumer himself or herself. Believe it or not, women were not put on this planet to serve you.

Times are a changing people. Time to get with it.