Love Unfiltered: Why You Should Send Your Crush Unflattering Snapchats

by Laura Wigodner

When you really like someone, it's typical to overthink everything you say when talking to him or her.

It's even more typical to put a flattering filter on every photo you send to the person.

You spend too much of your time deliberating over whether or not to send an emoji with your “Hey” text.

You retake a selfie countless times before sending it through Snapchat.

You sometimes even delete a Facebook status after staring at it for an hour and then deciding it makes you look ridiculous.

You do all these things to appear as perfect as you can in order to get someone to like you back.

You try so hard to get someone to see you as a perfect, beautiful creature so he or she can fawn over you.

But in reality, you're harming your chances of being with this person rather than helping.

You're not being authentic.

You're essentially showing this person a manipulated, photoshopped version of yourself.

It's like you're writing a fictional character of the person you want to be for him or her.

You can edit yourself time and time again.

You can mold your outer self into a character who is universally likable in every aspect.

But when it comes to real-life people as opposed to characters, nonfiction is best suited for them.

It can sometimes be frightening to be yourself, especially when you're trying to make a good impression.

But from personal experience, I've learned that if you appear to be too “perfect,” your crush might feel more intimidated rather than intrigued.

I'm fairly certain most people don't want their crush to be scared of them.

People find it endearing when others aren't afraid to show who they truly are.

Most people prefer weirdness and enjoy the little quirks others have.

This is because quirks make everyone stand out from one another.

People are always hoping to meet someone different, someone who can spice up their lives and show them the world through a unique lens.

No one wants to be with someone who is just like everyone else.

You know the saying, “Do unto others as you want others to do unto you?"

Don't you hate it when someone is holding back?

It's so irritating when someone is being too careful when speaking to you.

It makes you want to rip off the invisible mask he or she is wearing.

Imagine your crush feels this way when you start to put up a shield.

Do you really want to frustrate him or her?

When people are mutually honest with each other, it makes for a better connection.

This doesn't just mean straight-forward honesty, but a metaphorical honesty as well.

It's the honesty that is only reflected through the way you act and the way you present yourself.

If this honesty existed more often, no one would be worried about saying the right thing at the right time.

No one would have concerns about looking or sounding stupid or weird.

Make an effort to be effortlessly you. (Ironic, I know.)

Don't think twice about what to reply to a text message with.

Stop trying to hide all of your flaws, and stop pretending to be someone you're not.

It feels better to let the real you shine through instead of wondering if your crush will accept the real you.

If your crush doesn't like you for your true self, then he or she isn't worth your time anyway.

So go ahead and send that ugly Snapchat to your crush that will only appear for a few seconds.

You might have the honor of receiving an ugly Snapchat back from him or her.