The way we talk in our relationships has always fascinated me. Whether it's to spare the other person's feelings or to make ourselves look cooler than we actually are, we are never actually just saying what we mean. Right?
Like, I would bet $5 million that if you weren't into someone, you wouldn't just say, "I'm not that into you." You would make up about 396 different excuses ranging from you've "been busy" to you're "still getting over your ex" (who may or may not exist), to maybe even you're "moving to Africa for an indefinite amount of time" before just saying those brutal words.
By the same token, I would bet a large sum on the fact you probably wouldn't just go ahead and tell someone you want to date that you would want to date him or her. WHAT IF YOU LOOK LAME? WHAT IF HE REALIZES YOU LIKE HIM?
So instead, you'll come up with plenty of cool alternatives like "I don't need to DATE. We can just be exclusive," or "I really don't care what we do."
Of course, we'd like to hope that when we're in a relationship with the right person, all of these pseudo lies become unnecessary, and we can finally just say what we mean. But unfortunately, when you're dating around, a lot of your time is spent sifting through all of the people who weren't quite right. In which case, I would say lies suddenly become all too necessary.
Here's what you say in relationships and what you really mean:
When we say we're "fine."
When we say we "don't want a relationship right now."
When we say we don't want to date, and we "just want to be exclusive."
When we say we're "tired."
When we say we "fell asleep."
When we say, "Add me on Snapchat."
When we say we want to "take a break for a little bit."
When we say it's time to "cool things off."
When we say, "k."
When we say we "don't care."
When we ask if we can "keep doing what we're doing and see what happens."
When we say, "heyyyyy."
When we say, "it's not you, it's me."
When we say we've "been busy."
So honestly, maybe it's for the best that we don't say what we actually mean. The truth isn't always so pretty, is it?