I've always heard your rebound is not someone you should keep around, but what if your rebound turns out to be way better than your ex?
Well, it can happen.
Yes, in most cases, your rebound turns out to be your worst mistake. They tend to be rude, crude and absolutely horrible. They treat you wrong and make you wish you never broke up with your ex.
However, there are some cases where your rebound could turn out to be the love of your life, and there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes, the first person you go to after a nasty breakup is actually exactly what you needed.
In fact, my own rebound turned out to be better than my ex. My “rebound” is handsome, brilliant and hardworking, while my ex was just an overall questionable human being.
My ex never seemed to be happy with our relationship, and I never seemed to be good enough. And while suffering from depression, I was dumped because “I just wasn't happy” (as if dumping me was going to make me any happier).
He didn't seem to care, though. He would rather watch me drown by myself than give me the time of day.
My ex seemed like he was forced to care about me most days. Talking to me was just another chore he had to complete throughout the day. He would rather play video games than go on a date with me. He would rather hang out with his friends for a week than even acknowledge my existence.
Essentially, our relationship got to the point where I would talk to his best friend more than I would talk to him. And sadly, I was OK with that because talking to him just made me more and more depressed.
We fell apart as quickly as we started. It was over by the time I knew what had happened.
But then, another guy came into my life at that point, and I didn't think twice about it. Who knew this guy would actually be my “rebound” after my last relationship?
I surely did not expect the whirlwind of hope that came with this newfound relationship. It was like I was an entirely different person.... probably because I really was an entirely different person.
See, my rebound was there to pick me up when I fell.
He helped me through one of the roughest points in my life. He made me feel as if I wasn't crazy, and he comforted me in my time of need. He did everything he could to put a smile on my face, even though he knew it wouldn't last long before the depression would sink in.
Shortly after we began dating officially, my anxiety and depression hit worse than they ever had before.
I could barely function on a daily basis anymore. I was breaking down more and more by the day. But my rebound sat by my side. He made sure I was never alone and that I never suffered silently like I would have with my ex.
I honestly can never repay him for everything he did for me in my time of need.
And today, my rebound is my fiancé. We are set to get married this coming November, and I couldn't be happier.
I still suffer from depression and anxiety, but it is a lot easier for me now. I have good days and bad days, but with him, my life is so much better. I am marrying my best friend, which is more than I could've ever asked for.
So yes, sometimes, rebounds are not the worst thing on the planet. Maybe — just maybe — they can turn out to be the love of your life and the path to seeing the light again.
This article was originally published on Unwritten.