I think the majority of girls have been in toxic relationships before, or have been with a guy who didn't value them for who they really are.
After these heartbreaks, we sometimes wish we never met that fuckboy to begin with. At least that way, we wouldn't have had our hearts broken.
On the other hand, I think every girl needs to date a douche at least once in her life, to learn some crucial dating lessons.
Here are five reasons you shouldn't regret that toxic relationship.
1. You will end up having different expectations.
No one wants to settle, and we all have certain expectations that we want our partner to meet. Once you date a fuckboy, these expectations change.
It's important to understand that there are a lot of great guys out there, but our expectations or stereotypes stop us from making a connection with them. I'm not saying to let go of your standards completely, but this experience will definitely broaden them.
2. You learn how to say no.
Being able to say no is definitely something that everyone needs to learn to do. After you realize that he is a fuckboy and he doesn't deserve you, it will be easier to say no to anything that you are not comfortable with in your other relationships.
This is a great opportunity to focus on yourself and what you want instead of prioritizing someone else. This is a difficult lesson to learn, but it will pay off in the long run.
After breaking things off with a fuckboy, you will only look for a relationship that you feel completely comfortable in.
3. You will know the type.
Next time you meet a douche, you will already know not to fall for that type.
You will see similarities with the last guy and recognize it's best to let this person go from your life early on instead of getting attached. It's great to get the bad boy out of your system so that the dangerous type won't be your type anymore.
4. You will figure out your priorities.
If you became distant with your friends because they never supported your toxic relationship, you might want to listen to their advice the next time around. If you spent all your time with your partner who didn't accommodate you in any way, you will now put yourself first.
When you are in a toxic relationship, you can get blinded by your emotions. It's important to understand that your relationship is not everything, and getting hurt could be a wake-up call.
When you finally find that healthy relationship you wont sacrifice your identity or happiness, no matter how much you think you love the person.
5. You'll never be scared to leave anyone.
If you let go of someone who was toxic to you, it will be easier to understand when a relationship is not going anywhere. You will learn that there are much better people out there other than the douche that you have been dating.
Leaving to put yourself back out there is one of the hardest things to do, but it will all pay off in the end.
We have all met a fuckboy. Sometimes we regret our relationships because they caused us unnecessary pain, but they were actually life lessons that shouldn't be taken for granted.
What we learn most from terrible relationships (or almost-relationships) are things about ourselves. So don't think of your failed relationship or an attempt at a relationship as a failure, think of it as a prerequisite everyone must endure before they can get to the good stuff.
**This post was originally published on ReadUnwritten.com