Today, so many of us are focused on finding love or people to spend our lives with that we end up settling and/or getting into relationships for all the wrong reasons.
Love is something we want so badly. There are novels written just for our generation with detailed instructions on how to get someone to like you.
There are also movies, blogs and entire institutions that have been created solely to help people seeking relationships.
Fortunately, you don’t have to read any of these books, watch any of those movies or hurry to sign up for dating websites in order to find the person of your dreams.
Here are only five questions you need to ask yourself before embarking on the hunt for your next relationship.
Answer them honestly, as they will determine whether or not you are ready for one, and if you are, they will ensure you will attract your perfect person:
1. You love yourself?
I mean, for real. Spend a day in your own shoes, and listen to the things you tell yourself.
Do you put yourself down often? If you cannot speak to yourself in a kind way, why would you expect someone else to treat you kindly?
2. You committed to the things you are passionate about?
Is there even anything in your life you are passionate about other than finding a relationship?
Have you ever put off your morning run or been late for work because you wanted to continue cuddling?
Commitment to yourself is something you must master before your next relationship.
We attract what we are, so if you are uncommitted to yourself, you will most likely attract someone who has commitment issues.
3. Do you know who you are looking for, or will you settle for the first person who pays attention to you?
As a human, I know you love attention, but you are better than that.
To narrow things down, write a letter to the hypothetical partner of your dreams, thanking him or her for how he or she treats you.
This will help you decide whether or not the next person you meet makes the cut.
4. Are you just looking for someone to fill a void? Are you always after people who could potentially be your next projects?
We are often attracted to people we want to “fix” as a way of avoiding what needs to be “fixed” in our own lives.
They are great distractions but, there is no one out there who can fill a void forever.
Make self-care a priority in your life, and practice looking at the areas of your own life that may need improvement.
Until you are able to do this, you are not ready for a relationship.
5. Are you stable enough for another element of instability in your life?
Relationships are difficult because the other person has a will of his or her own.
We must be willing to have a greater amount of compassion than we do when we are single.
We also must be willing to stay open, even though this means we might get hurt. Openness, though, is a key component for a successful relationship.
Practice having an open heart so the person you date next feels comfortable opening up, too.
The people you attract are always reflections of who you really are.
So, if you are looking for someone who is loving, supportive, kind, committed and loyal, be that person!
The best way to find your dream relationship is to become the person you are looking for.
The most important relationship we will ever have are the ones we have with ourselves, as these are the relationships that will determine how all the others turn out.