Relationships

Self-Proclaimed 'Players' Discuss Their Thoughts On Monogamy

by Candice Jalili

Ah, the age old question, "can a player ever change?"

Many people have tried (and failed) to take a player and make him (or her) change his (or her) ways, but the story always seems to end with the same answer: No, a player doesn't change.

But before you go giving up on that fixer-upper guy you've been trying to change for years (I'm sure your friends love him, BTW), read what these self-proclaimed players have to say about getting into a monogamous relationship.

A question posed on Reddit asked them to describe why they were players, as well as explain how their player lifestyle affected their attempts to be in a monogamous relationship in the future.

For some of the dudes, it was actually a good thing. For others, not so much.

Being a player made him better in bed.

Being a player in the past doesn't define who these guys are now.

Being a player made him a serial cheater.

Being a player made relationships boring for these guys.

Being a player lowered his BS tolerance.

Being a player made them appreciate being in a monogamous relationship.

Being a player made these guys pickier when it came to choosing a monogamous partner.

Being a player made him tired of sex by the time he got into a monogamous relationship.

Honestly, tell me you don't have more insight into the player's psyche than you ever thought you would. You're welcome.

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