Terminally Lovesick: 5 Signs You're Hopelessly In Love

by Isabelle Thye

There are so many listicles circulating the web that communicate five, 10 and even 20 signs you're in love.

Everyone has his or her own unique interpretation of love, according to different contexts and life experiences.

There are signs you are happily in love, and there are also signs some people are painfully in love:

You defend him in every way, even when the world stands against you.

He is a workaholic, and he has always been absent. He is not available when you need him for emotional support.

You hardly have a plus-one while attending parties. He has to put you in his schedule in order to see you. He makes promises he never fulfills.

Everyone tells you you are not treated fairly and your relationship is not working out. You understand where those statements come from, but you fight for him in every way you can.

You come up with a million excuses to justify all the honest observations from your friends.

You are rationally irrational.

You are not a teenager, but you do agree love is blind. You are able to step back and look at the situation with an analytical mind. You know you are not his priority in life, and you are in denial for still having faith in him.

You, nevertheless, stubbornly stick to it. You choose to take this unpredictable path because your gut tells you to do so.

You are all in until you are out.

When you look back, you only see good things.

You think about him a lot. You think about the trip you took with him, the late-night movies at his place, the crazy stuff he told you he was doing and the warmth of waking up next to him.

Then, you tell yourself whatever happens in the end, those memories were real and you lived those moments.

Your relationship is like traveling: You hold your breath at the mesmerizing scenery and then, you move along in your journey. That moment and feeling sticks for a long, long time and puts a smile on your face whenever it comes back to you.

You say, "Go with the flow," even when people tell you it takes compromise to make it work.

It takes two conscious minds to align lifestyle and values. Even if he compromises to be physically present, he might still be mentally unavailable because there are just too many unfinished matters out there.

Loving him is a way of loving yourself because it is the conscious choice you make. There are plenty of easy options out there, but you chose the risky path without looking back.

You are so ready to get hurt.

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. You truly believe love is blind because you still hold on, knowing he is slipping away from your life.

Your analytic mind allows you to say you love him, even though the level of commitment is clearly unbalanced. You gave up a piece of yourself to build those beautiful memories and you allow yourself to be vulnerable when things go wrong.

Things look bad, but you know what? You are ready to get hurt and move on to the next great journey when time comes. Just go with the flow.