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This One Tweet Shows What's Really Wrong With That Guy's Post About His Curvy Wife

by Candice Jalili
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On July 30, 2017, a man named Robbie Tripp posted a picture of himself and his "curvy" wife, Sarah, lovingly looking at each other on the beach. The post came with a super long caption about how he loves her and her figure, despite the fact that other men might call her "chubby." It's safe to assume Tripp's point was to be inspirational and positive, but as you can imagine, it missed the mark. Big time.

If you're unfamiliar with the original post, check it out for yourself here:

Robbie Tripp's post about his "curvy wife" is now, as you can imagine, facing a ton of backlash on the internet, and there's one tweet by Twitter user @soulthot that perfectly showcases where the post, and its subsequent response, fell short.

Why is a dude being into curvy women even huge, Earth-shattering news in the first place?

And more importantly, why do people think this guy is revolutionary, when huge numbers of curvy women proclaiming how much they love themselves and their bodies don't receive the same warm reception?

@soulthot's tweet, unfortunately but also unsurprisingly, wound up with a lot of negative backlash from mansplainers across the Twitter universe.

That being said, ladies across the web have come together to express the same frustrations with the post.

For those of you who didn't get the chance to read Tripp's vom-worthy caption in the post above, here's the text transcribed for you:

I love this woman and her curvy body. As a teenager, I was often teased by my friends for my attraction to girls on the thicker side, ones who were shorter and curvier, girls that the average (basic) bro might refer to as "chubby" or even "fat." Then, as I became a man and started to educate myself on issues such as feminism and how the media marginalizes women by portraying a very narrow and very specific standard of beauty (thin, tall, lean) I realized how many men have bought into that lie. For me, there is nothing sexier than this woman right here: thick thighs, big booty, cute little side roll, etc. Her shape and size won't be the one featured on the cover of Cosmopolitan but it's the one featured in my life and in my heart. There's nothing sexier to me than a woman who is both curvy and confident; this gorgeous girl I married fills out every inch of her jeans and is still the most beautiful one in the room. Guys, rethink what society has told you that you should desire. A real woman is not a porn star or a bikini mannequin or a movie character. She's real. She has beautiful stretch marks on her hips and cute little dimples on her booty. Girls, don't ever fool yourself by thinking you have to fit a certain mold to be loved and appreciated. There is a guy out there who is going to celebrate you for exactly who you are, someone who will love you like I love my Sarah.

Basically, the post sends the message to girls that it's OK to be curvy, but only because a curvy body type is a fetish for some guys, rather than telling them their bodies are beautiful regardless of anyone else's attraction to them. So yeah, you could say it left a bad taste in people's mouths.

Of course, I don't like to assume the worst in people, so I'm assume Tripp didn't mean for his post to come off as offensively as it did. But this is a valuable lesson in the importance of thinking about how everyone and anyone is going to be affected by something you so publicly decide to share.

Remember, it isn't revolutionary to be attracted to a body type that isn't what mainstream media pushes, and someone isn't only attractive because you're attracted to them.

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