We Never Use These 10 Words In Dating App Convos, Which Explains Why We’re All Single

by Candice Jalili

I'm going on my second full year out of college, so even though I haven't graduated super recently, I'd still like to think of myself as a fairly recent college grad.

And like most recent college grads around me, I really, really, really hate the thought of anything related to growing up.

Sure, I eventually want marriage, a family and that kind of stuff somewhere way down the line, but I'm in absolutely no rush for any of that to happen in the near future.

In fact, I'd ideally love to just put off any and all thought of future "adulting" until the time actually comes for me to do it.

OkCupid recently surveyed their users to see what their most and least used words were when messaging someone on a dating app, and their results confirmed I'm not alone — we're all pretty petrified of adulting and any indication of the future.

The most popular words for recent grads to use in messages

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We seem to have a strong affinity for anything Netflix-related. Yep, you read that correctly. Netflix.

OkCupid's survey found that millennials used words like Breaking Bad, Star Wars, Harry Potter, "watching Netflix" and "video games" more than any of their other users.

Maybe I'm just projecting my insecurities because I've never watched Breaking Bad, Star Warsor Harry Potter, but these words make me think maybe our generation needs to go outside more.

The least popular words for recent grads to use in messages

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The survey found that recent grads were using words like "long term," "easy going," "love," open-minded," "family," and "kids" significantly less than any other OkCupid users.

Actually, the term "easy going" surprised me a bit, but I'm guessing we just don't use that term because we've replaced it with "chill." But otherwise, are you really surprised at all?

According to OkCupid, when it comes to why we don't use these words, it's probably because we're not looking to hop on any other milestones or life events, since recent grads did just complete a HUGE milestone, and we may even be afraid to talk about anything relating to the future.

Needless to say, an obvious by-product of this apparent fear of commitment and adulting is the fact that so many of us are single... because who would want to be in a relationship with someone who can't even use the word "love," amiright?

That being said, perhaps the fact that we're so afraid of thinking about the next steps in life isn't such a bad thing because recent grads have been too busy focusing on something else more important to us: our education.

The survey also found that millennials valued education more than any other users.

Just how much does education matter to us?

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While a college degree is "nice, but not mandatory" for about 60 percent of OkCupid's general users (as shown in the graphic above), OkCupid users ages 18 to 34 are actually more likely than ANY other generation to turn down a date because of someone's education level.

In fact, 22 percent of female millennials and 16 percent of male millennials reported that a college degree is mandatory if you want a shot at dating them.

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Broken down by gender, it looks like more women than men are super strict about the education level of a potential date.

Almost 30 percent of the women who attended college demanded a college education from their partners, as opposed to almost 20 percent of men.

Courtesy of OkCupid

So we may not be quite as ready to talk about the serious parts of our future, but that's likely because we've been focusing on our education... you know, because we were trying to graduate.

Sorry for being SMART.

Citations: Congrats, Graduates: No One Gives a Sh*t (OkCupid)