Sometimes, dating can seem tedious -- too tedious. It can even start to be a bit of a nuisance. If you’ve started to compare going on dates to visiting the gyno, it’s probably time to take a break from dating.
Here are nine signs you should give the search for love a rest:
1. You Don’t Have Any Free Time
Having “me time” is a necessity. One of the benefits of being single is being able to do whatever you want, whenever you want. If you have an urge to go to yoga at 7 am on a Saturday and there’s no man begging you to stay in bed, you can go!
Regardless of your relationship status, you should be able to do anything and everything that makes you happy. If dating is consuming all of your free time and you’re having trouble putting yourself first, take a break!
2. You’re Now A Cynic
When you’re going on many dates, it’s easy to get discouraged. Maybe you’ve met men who seem good on paper, but aren’t amazing enough for you. Or, perhaps, maybe you’ve been on many first dates and wanted them to turn into second dates.
Whatever the scenario, if you’ve been on multiple dates and you’re still single, it’s natural to be disappointed. When your dating outlook starts to feel negative, it’s time for a dating hiatus. Being a pessimist or cynic won’t help you meet Mr. Right.
3. You’re Crazy Busy
Timing is everything. You should never feel like you have too much going on at once, or like you’re being pulled in all different directions. If you can’t give all of yourself to dating, simply don’t date.
If your life is super demanding, focus on yourself. When the time is right, you can put yourself out there again.
4. Your Heart Isn’t In It
If you’d rather schedule a doctor’s appointment than go on a date, now is not the right time to meet new people. Your heart has to be in the dating game.
5. You Recently Went Through A Breakup
If you still think about your ex before you fall asleep at night, it’s too soon to be dating. Make sure you're over your ex before you move on to the next.
Yes, some people say the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new, but that’s not always the case.
If you’re looking for a lasting and meaningful relationship, make sure you’re emotionally available.
6. Your Excitement Disappeared
Does the thought of meeting new people seem awful? Are you going through the motions of dating thoughtlessly? Are you dating because your family told you to? When you lose interest in dating, a rest is mandatory.
7. You Don’t Feel Fabulous
When you meet someone new, you want to look and feel like a million bucks. You should be so confident that as soon as you walk into a room, all eyes are on you. You want to be the girl every man wants to meet.
If you’re not feeling absolutely fabulous about yourself, now is not the right time to date. You don’t want the men you’re meeting to think you’re anything but the super awesome person you are.
8. You’re A Negative Nancy
Men want to date women who are intoxicating to be around. A woman who exudes positivity is alluring. If you’re feeling a bit unenthusiastic or negative, men will notice it. If you’re coming off as anything but cheerful and lighthearted, you’ll turn off more men than you excite.
The minute you feel doubt or cynicism, stop dating.
9. You’re Tired
Dating can easily make you feel burnt out and just plain exhausted. If you take a step back and realize you’ve been a serial monogamist since you were in middle school, you may need to re-evaluate your choices.
Do you have goals you want to accomplish? Do you want some time for yourself? If so, there’s no time like the present to take a break from dating!
