This Is Why You Need To Keep Going On Bad Dates With Total Strangers
For Millennials, dating may seem like a piece of cake. But it's really not everyone's cup of tea. Heck, it's not even everyone's cup of vodka.
Between having to balance school, work, family time and an ever-present social life, making time for some good old courting with multiple male suitors just doesn't seem feasible for most single ladies.
At this point in my life – as a 23-year-old, slightly crazy, quirky and at times socially awkward individual – I can attest to the notion that dating really is sufficiently stressful.
I say this not because I don't like going on dates. I mean, who doesn't like free food and drinks? But I'm simply saying this because, for me, finding someone who I want to be around for more than five minutes is simply a struggle in itself.
With apps like Tinder and Bumble showcasing a pool of potential Rico Suaves at us, one would think dating would be easy and convenient. However, for some (including myself) it's simply a pain in the ass.
If you're going on a date as a single person, he's most likely a stranger, or someone you've seen only once or twice before. You had some small talk, and then never spoke again until he decided to slide into your DMs a week later.
You were probably intrigued by his green eyes, his beard or some other physical feature. You decided to get his number (or his Insta), and then proceeded to plant the seed with a half-smile and a flicker of your newly-applied false lashes.
Boom. The next thing you know, he's asking you to get coffee and hors d'oeuvres at that trendy breakfast bar you've been wanting to go to. You say, "Maybe. Let me check my schedule." Then, you go, "OK. I'm free." Then, you suddenly go, "Yes. Can't wait."
But by this point, you're already three fibs deep.
Dating is stressful, thanks to the mere fact that you're most likely not comfortable with one another yet. I mean, God forbid you choke on a piece of slivered almond in your salad, and he doesn't know how to perform CPR.
For us single girls, comfort is everything. We are either at home, alone in our sweats eating pizza, or dressed to the nines while going out with our best girlfriends.
Going on a date can be physically and mentally draining. We have to dress up in an outfit we aren't even sure if the guy will like – but f*ck it, we like it – show face for an hour or two, and most likely pretend to understand what date guy is saying about his favorite sports team. But really, we would rather be at home, watching trashy reality TV shows and chugging cheap wine.
For Gen-Y single ladies, dating is hell, topped with a spritz of cologne and an overpriced blouse.
For instance, say you go on a date with a guy who, aside from his above-par pectorals, really didn't possess any of the qualities you look for in a potential boyfriend. He takes you to a country concert. Halfway through, he says, "I really don't like country."
Mind you, by this point, you're probably half-drunk and screaming the lyrics to your favorite songs at the top of your lungs. He just crushed your hopes and dreams because deep down, you really want to be Carrie Underwood. Epic fails like these are why Millennial females have mini heart attacks at the first sign of a potential date.
But when it's all said and done, we all want to find happiness and pure bliss with a guy. We want to put our heavily-developed wedding board on Pinterest to use. The moral of it all is this: All those not-so-great dates are practice for the one great date you may actually get to go on one day.
The more people you meet, the more you'll become aware of not only who you are and what you like, but also exactly what you want and don't want in a potential partner.