Men Reveal Why They Actually Enjoy Being The Little Spoon


In the middle of what was otherwise mundane discussion between guys about sports, women and beef jerky, one of my friends divulged that he actually prefers being the little spoon when cuddling with his girlfriend.

Stunned at this, I pushed him on it and discovered that while he didn't necessarily prefer it so much as he really enjoyed it, he was willing to bet more men than you'd think actually feel the same way.

I'll be honest, I had my doubts. But, I'm nothing if not a sucker for asking people about their relationships.

So, I polled around my circle of friends, Twitter and elsewhere. And what I found out honestly surprised me.

I expected to get most of my responses like these two married men:

"I'd generally prefer large spoon. I'm not a weirdo," said Joe*, 36.


"I actually am never little spoon. Freaks me out. It's emasculating," said Mike, 28.

But I wouldn't be writing this if I'd only gotten those responses.

What I'm here to tell you, ladies, is more men than you'd think — perhaps even the man you're with right now — wouldn't mind it at all if you let them be the little spoon every so often.

Here are some of the best reasons I've received as to why men like it and, more importantly, why some are embarrassed to admit it:

Some just like to switch things up.

— Seth, 31

Some keep their reason simple.

— Marcus, 30

Even some guys who aren't big cuddlers have their reasons for switching it up.

— Derek, 32

While this guy wouldn't commit to being a full-time little spoon, he gave a thoughtful take on gender norms.

— Wallace, 31

This guy thinks there's only one way to go.

— Josh, 24

In the interest of full disclosure, that same guy also made some non-aggressive, solid points about why he likes little spooning:

— Josh, 24

And this guy also thinks it feels nice to be the one getting the warm lovin'.

— Clark, 30.

And finally, one guy made a sports analogy, so I have to include it:

— Kevin, 30

We all know the benefits of being a little spoon: increased comfort, warmth, stability and, most importantly, the freedom from having an arm fall asleep.

I'm not saying women should relinquish primary little spoon responsibilities. Of course not.

I'm just saying, maybe share the wealth a little bit. Your man may act like a tough guy, but there's a decent chance he'll enjoy the change of pace every so often.