She’s emotional. She overreacts. She’s too sensitive.
Guys have an arsenal of words to describe how they view women.
Bizarrely enough, these words seem primarily directed at women, but they are rarely directed at men.
But, there’s one word that’s now being thrown around more than any other word: crazy.
We’ll say, "Oh, yeah. I liked her, but she was too crazy."
Sometimes, we even say crazy with a positive connotation: "Dan, you’ll love her. She’s crazy — just your type."
Rarely do guys ask their friends to explain further.
We don’t ask how she's crazy; there’s just an implicit understanding.
It's a universal code.
All guys seem to somehow know what crazy is, does and means.
If you look up the word "crazy" in a dictionary, you’ll get a ton of different definitions.
However, the first one that pops up is "mentally deranged; demented; insane.”
Clearly, that’s not what we mean when we call a woman crazy.
So maybe it’s not as clear of a definition as we think it is.
What do we actually mean when we call a woman “crazy?”
Here are six types of “crazy” and what guys mean by them:
1. She has a strong opinion and isn't afraid to speak her mind.
It sounds like the word you’re looking for here isn’t actually "crazy" at all.
It sounds more like "strong-willed."
Perhaps you meant confident or independent?
Maybe you even meant stubborn, if she’s unwilling to change her mind in the face of evidence.
Crazy, though? It doesn’t sound like it.
2. She can’t be pleased.
No matter what happens, she’s just never satisfied.
You do everything she asks of you.
You try to be a compassionate and understanding man, and you even put her before yourself.
Still, she’s always upset over something.
That sounds rough. It even sounds unbearable.
You probably shouldn’t be with her, but she's not crazy.
3. She’s sexually promiscuous and adventurous.
It’s almost 2016. Are guys seriously still slut-shaming?
Do we still have that bullsh*t double standard rooted in our archaic Puritan roots?
Men, come on.
How come you’re allowed to sleep with a bunch of women and it’s okay, but she can’t sleep with a bunch of men?
See the hypocrisy there?
Just in case you haven’t put two and two together, allow me to help.
Women who sleep around are better at sex.
Think about it logically for a second: How can they not be?
Practice really does make perfect.
4. She’s a manipulative liar.
Okay, this one seems more like her fault than yours.
But instead of calling her crazy, why not actually explain how she’s being manipulative?
She’s a narcissistic, parasitic, lying succubus who exploits your emotions to get what she wants.
Doesn’t that sound better than, "Yeah, she’s completely crazy?"
People will actually know what the hell you’re talking about.
Also, once you articulate how she’s acting “crazy,” you’ll realize she probably isn’t the type of woman you should be with.
5. She’s constantly drunk.
"She got hammered last night and was completely crazy."
Do you mean to say, "She has an issue with alcohol abuse?"
That’s very different from being crazy.
If she’s constantly drinking that much and losing her sh*t, you might have some more serious problems to deal with other than her “craziness.”
6. She’s reacting to something normally.
This is the most common one.
You’re actually making her "crazy."
You did something you know you probably should not have done.
You did something that would upset her, like flirt with a girl in front of her, not text her back when you had plans or not empathize with her issues.
But instead of admitting you screwed up, you struck back with a “Why are you overreacting?” or a “Calm down.”
This, of course, only escalates the situation.
Be a man.
Admit when you do something wrong, and take responsibility.
Don’t call her “crazy” for reacting to something you did when deep down, you know you just f*cked up.