9 Matchmakers Reveal The Top Traits You Should Look For In Your Next SO


When you're single, everyone tries to tell you which qualities to look for in the person you'll want to spend the rest of your life with.

Your parents may tell you to look for someone with strong career goals and healthy finances (#yawn). Your best friend may say you need to seek out committed types who choose you over Sunday night football (because she KNOWS, girl).

While it's helpful to hear others' input, it's always a good idea to have your own list of must-haves for your next relationship. After all, this is your ideal life-long partner we're talking about.

So, if you're looking to see what you should add to your SO wish list, peep what these nine matchmakers admit are the most important things you should look for in your next lover.

1. Find someone who shares the same values as you.

– Maria Avgitidis, founder and head matchmaker at

2. And is emotionally compatible with you.

–  Sameera Sullivan, relationship expert, psychologist and founder and CEO of the elite luxury matchmaking service, Lasting Connections

3. Look for a considerate person.

– Angela Kelley, professional matchmaker at A+ Introductions, LLC

4. Who's also emotionally available.

– Marissa Ventura, matchmaker

5. Find the person that you don't want to change.

– Dallisa Hocking, founder of Love FrogKisser

6. And someone who knows how to commit to something.

– Gina Cerniglia and Alexandra Joslin, matchmakers at Friend Of A Friend

7. Seek out a partner who shows you R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

– Brooke Wise, Wise Matchmaking

8. And clearly cares about you.

– Stef Safran, matchmaking expert who founded Stef And The City

9. Finally, look for someone who will make you a better person.

– Nikki Kewis and Greta Tufvesson, co-founders of The Bevy