Life Lessons Learned From Divorce
When you stand next to your beloved partner in front of dozens of guests and a priest, you're vowing to declare your never-ending love.
You are happy, and nothing can change the way you feel right now. But life is not that easy, and most couples eventually get a divorce.
When this happens, someone's world most definitely gets shattered.
It might be your world. It might be your partner's world, or it might be someone else's.
Divorces are emotionally and financially draining affairs, and can leave a strong mark on all parties involved. However, there is a bright side to them, as strange as it may sound. One can learn a lot after dealing with a divorce.
1. Initially, you might think things are going to end up great.
Most people think actually making the decision to divorce is the hardest thing. Well, it's not.
A divorce is a dirty affair, and you will struggle to get over it. As the attorneys enter the scene, you will gradually lose control over your life.
The more you try to stay on top of things, the worse it will be. One day, you will hit rock bottom.
This is the day you will just go with the flow and do everything you have to do in order to survive the following weeks.
2. You realize you put up with your unhappiness for too long.
This is one of the most distressing lessons behind a divorce. As the event unveils, you will see you've waited too long to ask for a divorce.
This can be emotionally devastating, as you won't be able to recognize yourself. In most cases, the realization of what you really had to endure in the marriage is a lot easier than the realization of the amount of time you've accepted the situation.
In some cases, the nature of the conduct is enough to show a person has suffered from severe emotional distress. For example, bodily harm indicates a spouse has gone through severe emotional distress.
Headaches or ulcers are signs that one has suffered such severe emotional distress, it's being reflected in his or her physical symptoms.
3. No one will love you if you don't love yourself.
During the divorce proceedings, the attorney will look like your best friend. But this is not the case.
The attorney is only there to help you separate from your partner legally. All the people around you during this time probably have their own financial interests involved.
Those who judge you have no idea what it's like to survive through a divorce. If you don't love yourself or make peace with yourself, no one will be able to help you... not even a powerful, skilled lawyer.
After deciding to get a divorce, you have to rediscover yourself and fall in love with yourself again. This is going to help you restore your life as soon as possible, so you will be emotionally available after the divorce has been finalized.
4. Stop making excuses and start living again.
A divorce is the perfect excuse to start living. Those who have to deal with breakups are prone to hiding behind the papers and lawyers and cease living.
They enter a state of idleness, which carries on long after the divorce is over.
Stop making excuses and start living.
Life doesn't end with one unfaithful, insincere man or woman. Life is more than that, and you need to live it.
Learn to be honest with yourself, and don't let the divorce stop you from achieving great things.