Relationships

Men Of Mystery: Why Introverted Guys Are Naturally Amazing Lovers

by Dan Scotti

Ever since you were a little kid, you’ve always considered yourself to be an introvert.

While most of your friends would probably shudder at the prospect of a quiet night spent alone, that type of scene has never really bothered you; in fact, you might even consider solidarity to be your comfort zone.

You’re a thinker. You value your alone time because it encourages thought -- that which you apply to your daily life. Just because you’re introverted doesn’t mean you’re opposed to the idea of company -- you simply value your alone time.

Still, in the eyes of most members of society, introversion is viewed as a setback of sorts. It’s commonly preached that the most extraverted, sociable people are the ones who prosper in the real world -- whether it pertains to dating or the job market.

Many consider introverted people to be meek and weaker than those who are more outgoing. But just because introverts may appear a bit bashful on the surface doesn’t mean they’re at any bit of a disadvantage -- especially when it comes to things like dating.

Contrary to popular belief, your introverted qualities may be your most attractive assets -- as long as you know how to channel them right.

The most important key is to embrace your natural self. At the end of the day, women will always be attracted to authenticity -- whether it comes in the form of an introverted or extraverted man.

Here are a few reasons why introverts naturally make the best lovers.

Introverts are naturally deep thinkers

If you consider yourself an introvert, you’re probably no stranger to time spent within the walls of your mind, just sort of thinking about things -- anything, really.

As a result, you’re conscious of yourself, the things you like, the things you don’t like, and you’re generally aware of the type of person you are and the type of people you mesh well with at the same time.

This will better prepare you to find someone who’s right for you. You’ll be less likely to find a girl you think you like only to realize -- 10 months or so down the road -- that you’ve just wasted the better portion of a year with someone who wasn’t right for you.

And when you find the person who’s right for you, you’ll know how to keep him or her around. As an introvert, you’ll naturally give deeper thought to the context of your relationships.

You’ll notice the areas that need work and be able to correct them before they become bigger issues. And if she’s observant, she’ll notice and appreciate this thoughtfulness.

It’s crazy what a little thoughtfulness can do for you.

Introverts are naturally independent

Because introverts are used to spending time by themselves, you’ll never let yourself become overly dependent on another person.

While a level of reliance and confidence is necessary for any successful relationship, dependency -- on anything, for that matter -- can become dangerous in large doses.

Relationships can grow toxic when two people become too consumed with each other and lose sight of their own private lives. As an introvert, you’ll understand a relationship shouldn’t mark the end of your own independence -- but add another dimension to it.

You enjoy attention -- especially from those you care about -- just not enough to ever chase it, and that will pay dividends when it comes to matters of your own relationship.

A lot of immature problems arise from the desire to prove something to someone, and introverts understand they have nothing to prove to anyone except themselves.

This allows for you to be truly compassionate.

Introverts are naturally patient

Thanks to your introverted tendencies, you rarely rush into things. From what you’ve learned, that type of impulsivity leads to carelessness; so instead, you’d rather formulate a proper plan than jump into something blindly.

With regard to relationships, you’re probably equally as mindful. You never lose sight of the fact that love -- like all things -- requires time and patience. You can’t rush into relationships and expect to not make errors down the road.

Women will respect this about you. It’s an attractive quality to look for in a partner. If you’re patient when it comes to matters of your own life, you’ll probably be patient with love -- which is necessary for any long-lasting relationship.

Introverts are naturally mysterious

You’re not necessarily uncomfortable while out in social situations; it’s just that you’re more comfortable somewhere low-key. Because of your shy, quiet temperament, women won’t be able to read you upon first glance -- this will help keep them intrigued throughout the courting process.

Because of your tendency to keep a low profile, you’ll inadvertently be playing hard to get with women, perhaps without even being cognizant of it.

Although this might drive women a little mad, especially early on in the dating process, it will set you apart from the countless dudes that try to waste her time at the club, on any given night.