How many beautiful women have you let waltz out of your life before they were even in it?
She could have been your blushing bride, but you didn't even speak because you "didn't know what to say."
Back in the day, I let hundreds of babes breeze by because I took too long to construct the perfect opening line.
Now, I can approach women with an empty brain and instantly make conversation.
Here are the reasons why:
1. You can say whatever you want.
I've picked up girls using preposterous pick-up lines, including:
Can you buy me a glass of water? I don't like nightclubs, but I go to them. Do you like my shirt? It's ironed.
When the club is really loud, I wave my arm and shout, "Hello."
They're ridiculous and stupid, but they all worked for the same reason.
But, they've also all not worked for the exact same reason.
2. It's all in the sub-communications.
Scientists claim 93 percent of communication is nonverbal. This means your sub-communications are 13 times more important than your actual chat.
Confident body language is crucial, and eye contact is essential.
But, the belief that whatever comes out of your mouth is brilliant is the most important thing to keep in mind.
As narcissistic as it sounds, you need to believe your gob is an unrelenting goldmine of hilarity and fascinating tales.
Believe it hard enough, and she'll be hooked.
3. The law of state transference is powerful.
Have you ever been around a bunch of blokes having such a brilliant time that you couldn't help but be in a better mood?
Or, have you spoken to someone so passionate about a subject that you found yourself also forming an interest?
Maybe you have a friend you always feel fantastic around. It's as if his or her emotions (amusement, passion, happiness, etc.) are being transferred onto you.
Psychologists call this the law of state transference, and it actually works. Whatever you find funny, others will find funny, too.
(They'll even enjoy sh*tty stories about how you ironed your own shirt.)
The sting is you really need to believe it. You need an unshakeable belief your stories are the balls.
4. Don't think; talk.
You should get into the habit of approaching women without having anything in your head. Just see what comes out.
It's easier than it sounds.
They might not react right away.
Maybe they're shy. Maybe they misheard, or they're in a bad mood.
So, be prepared to do most of the talking for the first minute or so.
There's only one reason you'd struggle to think of anything, and that's because of your standards for what's good enough to say.
They're set too high.
Don't put women on this pedestal. Imagine anything that's amusing or interesting to you will also be to them.
Most times, it's true.
The more you notice this, the easier it becomes to believe you have that million-dollar mouthpiece.
Plus, there's something sexy about the person who can speak with no filter.
They're unstifled, unpredictable and assured. It's such an attractive trait.
This technique will make flirting much more fun. You're sharing what you find funny, rather than trying to win someone over.
The woman will enjoy it more, too. It's more entertaining than the traditional conversations most men conform to.
Make sure you do flirt, though. Self-amusement will capture her attention, but you can't be a dancing clown for the whole conversation.
Eventually, you need to show your intentions.
5. It's crucial to be carefree.
Before I understood this theory, I ran into this breathtaking woman.
I racked my brain for the best thing to say.
How about the one with the ironed shirt? Yeah, that worked the weekend before.
But, it didn't work this time.
My tone was off, the delivery was awkward and it was far from carefree. I was using it to impress her rather than amuse myself.
She physically cringed and walked away without saying anything.
Yesterday's world-winning banter becomes tomorrow's crutch when it comes from the wrong place.
It will never work if you're desperate for it to work.
Right now, you're thinking too much about what to say to women. After all, you've read an entire article about it.
Think less, laugh more and get women.