Relationships

He's Just Not That Into You: How To Know When It's Time To Finally Move On

by Jordan Hamilton
Stocksy

Boy meets girl, girl meets guy and they fall madly in love. Well, at least that's how we wish things played out.

As women, we generally tend to fall both harder and faster than men. When we meet that one guy who seems to fulfill all of our expectations and so much more, we immediately feel like we must devote ourselves entirely.

However, what happens when we are placed in a situation where we give it our all, but we don't get the same in return? That's what we call reciprocity, and nine times out of 10, if Mr. Wonderful isn't feeling you the same way you're feeling him, then you can kiss reciprocity goodbye.

We've all been in that sticky situation: Our feelings get the best of us as soon as we meet that one person who could become that special someone. Things start off great: The texts and calls are consistent; you've been on a couple dates and the whole works.

Hell, this guy even has you daydreaming about what life would be like if you took on his last name -- mind you, it's only been a couple weeks. Some would refer to this kind of behavior as "thirst" or being "in too deep," but as women, we all know this is what we refer to as "infatuation."

Two weeks have passed and those butterflies in your stomach are still flying around. You wake up with this guy on your mind, and you go to bed with him on your mind, but can he say the same about you?

Those good morning and goodnight texts slowly come to an end, and dates to the local Starbucks have turned into you using your Keurig to brew your own coffee. You're left confused and your patience has almost run dry.

You begin to question your actions and whether or not your intentions were as good as you thought they were. Mr. Not-So-Wonderful didn't seem to live up to his name or to your expectations. Were they too high, or did he just realize he wasn't as interested in pursuing you as you thought he was?

More often than not, if a guy goes from being all about you to trying his best to stay far away from you, he couldn't handle the situation to begin with. Men and women usually aren't on the same level when it comes to maturity, especially emotional maturity.

As women, once our emotions take over, there is no turning back. Our emotions can sometimes result in us coming on too strong, which can be somewhat intimidating for a man with whom we have just gotten involved.

Instead of expressing their feelings on a personal level, it's easier for men to just walk away from a situation. While our emotions start to take us from "0 to 100 real quick," that guy we had high hopes for is probably somewhere on Tinder, swiping right.

As much as we don't want to hear it, it's actually pretty simple: If a guy is interested, he will show you he is interested, point blank. You won't have to question his actions or his intentions; they will be genuine.

There comes a time in our lives when we have to realize we deserve more. If a man isn't interested, there is no sense in holding on to something that is no longer there, or was never there to begin with. If he suddenly stops being consistent, don't trip.

There is a guy out there waiting to be that consistent person for you. Know when it's time to let go and move on. There are plenty fish in the sea, and every fish is not lost trying to find his way home like Nemo. In other words, not every guy wants to hurt you in the long run.

Some men will show interest and remain interested. Be open-minded when it comes to dating and getting to know someone. As much as we want to believe that all men are the same, they aren't.

Pay close attention to the signs lover boy is sending your way. At the end of the day, save yourself from the unwanted stress and constant overthinking. Remember, when it's time to move on, don't hesitate to do so.

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