Every girl has a guy in the background, a guy who’s been waiting around, hoping to be noticed. This is not to be confused with the guys who are in the friend zone. Women only put guys in the friend zone whom they are not attracted to. Sorry guys, but it’s true.
No, I’m talking about that guy you’ve been friends with for years; the one you’ve kissed a few times while drunk but never really took seriously. You had him on the bench and probably didn’t even realize you did.
He’s the guy who has always been your friend, but never your boyfriend. He’s the one who’s coached you through various romantic and sexual endeavors, the one who’s held your hand during the worst of times and the best of times.
He’s the guy who waited for you — the guy who waited for you to be ready to be his one and only.
This is no new trend; this happens all the time. The greatest power couples are born from this male habit of lurking.
Think about it.
Kanye waited around for Kim for years. She got married, built her career up, got divorced — all the while staying close friends with Kanye.
He waited patiently. After a lot of struggle and hardship, Kim woke up and realized, “Wow, Kanye is the one for me. I get it now.”
The same thing happened with Jay and Bey. He was there waiting to be her BAE while she was still in Destiny’s Child! She wasn't even Sasha Fierce yet. That’s commitment.
The rest, of course, is history.
Does this sound familiar? It should. The guy who waited in the background is the guy who is right for you, he just wasn’t right for you at that exact moment you met. Trust me, he met you, realized you were the one he’d end up with and waited for his chance.
This all has to do with The Hunter Complex:
At the core, every man is a hunter. It takes a certain kind of woman to awaken the hunter in a certain kind of man.
Once that hunter instinct has been triggered, there is no turning back. He’s going to stealthily pursue you.
He’ll be your friend, help you out of any sticky situation you find yourself in, watch you grow into the woman you’re supposed to be — and once you’re ready for him, he’ll swoop.
Does it seem at all surprising that Kanye and Jay Z would be anything but the supreme?
Take a good look in the mirror and sort out your priorities, my friend. Stop wasting your time on fools who are unworthy of you.
You may not have realized the right guy was there all along, but he’s been there, waiting to be with you longer than you thought.
1. He knows what you’re about.
He knows what you value and care about. What is important to you is important to him — and not just to please you.
He’s been around for a long time, and since then, he’s long decided you’re what he wants. You two are in sync.
2. He’s watched you mature and grow.
When you first met, you weren’t ready to be his girlfriend. He saw the potential in you. He waited until you were the woman you wanted to be so the two of you could take on the world as a team.
He’s watched you grow from the time he met you and blossom into the incredible person you are today. He’s invested in your roots.
3. His beauty is much more than skin deep.
He’s not just some hot guy you want to slam. He’s beautiful inside and out. His heart is what sets him apart from the rest. He’s so much more than a pretty face that can easily distract you.
4. He’s committed AF.
His dedication is very clear. He is loyal to you beyond a fault. A guy who is willing to stick it out for YEARS is a guy who can stick it out until the end.
The very fact that he’s waited around this long shows he’s there for you.
5. He wants you because of your past, not in spite of it.
Your past isn’t something he finds shame in but instead, something he finds substance in. It’s what makes you, you.
He isn’t seeking to win your love and deal with your baggage; he wants to help you carry your baggage.
6. He’ll be a great boyfriend.
He’s super into you if he’s stuck it out this long. He’s a genuinely nice guy. We all know how rare that is. The guy who waits is a guy who could be your forever.
7. He’s no mediocre hunter.
He lies in wait for the perfect time to strike. You’re his prey, the gazelle to his lion. He isn’t going to jump the gun, frighten you and have you run away, evading his grasp.
I know it’s a bit grotesque to compare a woman with a gazelle and a man with a lion, but to him, you are his gazelle, and he wants to catch you.
8. He knows you better than anyone.
Who could know you better than he does? He wants all of you. He’s been in your life longer than any other Tom, Dick or Harry.
The difference between him and those other jokers? He’s the one who’s still playing the game because he intends to win it.
9. He’s clearly not just interested in your body.
He wants you for your mind, your intellect and what you bring to the world around you. If he were only interested in getting it in, he wouldn’t have stuck around.
He could get that sh*t anywhere. He genuinely cares about you as a person.
10. He clearly has the patience to deal with you.
You’re obviously a complex woman. If he waited out the storm, he has the gumption to take you on.
His patience has been thoroughly tested and yet, he is standing on the other side.
11. He’s seen you at your worst.
You should never commit to a man who can’t handle you at your worst, drunkest, sloppiest, lowest, hot mess moment.
Luckily, he’s already seen you like this many a time, and his affection for you has only grown rather than faded.
You know you have a real keeper when you find a guy who understands and accepts you the way you are, faults and all.