Relationships

19 Signs You're In A Dead-End Relationship And Should Call It Quits

by Kelly O'Hara

We singletons want one thing: to meet that person who ticks all of our boxes.

We're on the lookout for our Prince or Princess Charming.

We want someone who's good-looking, honest, smart, funny and so much more. Is that really too much to ask?

We're hopeful. We know the next person who steps into our life could be "the one" material.

And, that's why we can sometimes be blind to those little red flags that pop up from time to time, urging us to sprint in the opposite direction.

Hell, we even ignore the glaring, in-your-face signs that the person is just a dick.

But remember: You have to kiss a lot of frogs, dogs and idiots who deserve nothing more than to be thrown off a cliff before you meet Mr. or Mrs. Right.

Is your time spent with this fool really worth it? Does he or she really deserve you in all your awesome splendor?

Here are the signs that should be telling you it's time to call it a day with this one:

1. It feels like too much hard work.

If you find yourself having a blazing row on the first or second date, and it doesn't result in passionate make-up sex, then she isn't the person for you.

2. You're not totally attracted to him.

No matter how hard you try, you can't stop thinking about how much his chin resembles a pair of droopy testicles.

This will not change – unless he gets plastic surgery – and you will not stop noticing this.

3. He is "super busy" all of the time.

If he really wanted to see you, he would make the time to see you.

You skipped your weekly knitting circle for him, so he can do the same.

4. Your friends seriously disapprove.

You tell yourself they're just being protective, and your friends don't know what it's like when it's just you and him together, right? To be honest, they don't give a sh*t.

And, they're unaffected by those dizzying amorous feelings you have, so they can see right through him.

5. He makes you cringe.

You're not blushing like a shy school girl with a crush, you're blushing because he just told your grandma an unnecessarily crude story.  He's an embarrassment, so get rid of him!

6. The person doesn't share your values.

Stop trying to forgive the fact that he's slightly racist. That doesn't fly with you, or anybody for that matter.

7. The sex is really bad.

A lot of people think that in the big scheme of things, this shouldn't matter.

Well, it actually does because without the sex, the person you're dating is just another one of your friends.

It is something you can work at (and have a lot of fun in the process), but really it just needs to fit (stop it you with the dirty mind).

I mean, there needs to be a sort of harmony for it to work.

8. He won't add you on Facebook.

On the one hand, he might not want you to see all of his fan posts about "Transformers" (his one true passion).

On the other hand, he might not want you to see all of the other people he's dating. That's shady, and you should unfriend him IRL.

9. You know everything about the person on the first date.

You've got an absolute bore-snore on your hands here.

By the second date, she'll be telling you all of the same stories, and you'll want to jump out of a window.

10. The person is creepy AF.

Everyone has his or her own little idiosyncrasies, and that's great.

But, when he asks you to take a piss on him in the bedroom (and you're not feeling it), it might be time to show him the door.

11. You don't speak the same language.

It's all good and well speaking the language of love, but you have to be able to chat at least a little bit.

It could get very awkward very quickly, and you don't want to feel like his English language tutor either.

12. The person is mean to you.

I shouldn't have to go into this one. It's unforgivable. Just no!

13. He thinks he is super cool, and you know he's not.

This brings a certain Shania Twain song to mind. It doesn't impress you much, so you just grit your teeth and roll your eyes.

Would you not rather find someone who's genuinely interesting?

14. If you're being honest, the person is more of a f*ck buddy.

Getting your end away on a regular basis is nice, really nice. But if you're looking for something more serious, you need to move on and stop meeting dates on Grindr or Adult Friend Finder.

15. You think you can change him.

If you put as much effort into finding someone who's compatible as you do trying to change people, then you would probably be married by now.

No one can be changed, and no one wants to be changed. How pissed would you be if someone was trying to change you?

16. The person is unresponsive.

You know what it means when someone replies with one-word answers (or no answer) to your messages? He's just not that into you.

17. The person is a bum.

The only reason she's dating you is for the free meal. An unambitious sponge is about the least attractive kind of person you could have found.

This person is a bum of Kardashian-like proportions.

18. One person is more into it than the other.

And that person is you. Chasing down a potential lover is so much fun to begin with.

You might have the hunting skills of Katniss Everdeen, but after a while, it starts to be a lot less fun and lot more painful.

If it's the other way around and he's chasing you, that's no fun either. It's just annoying.

19. Your gut is telling you no.

Listen to it.