Ah, ghosting. It's the dating phenomenon that happens when people are too cowardly to actually end things with the people they've been seeing, so they choose to just… disappear instead.
Ghosters are idiots. But if you've ever been ghosted, know that you're not alone.
In this weekly column, I share a tale of a time a reader was ghosted (with accompanying screenshots) so you can see the last text that was sent or words that were uttered before someone decided to disappear forever. I present to you: Boom, Ghosted.
Today we have Alexis* who was ghosted by the guy who took her virginity. Yes, that's right. You read it correctly. This guy might actually be the living worst. But that's just my opinion.
Here's the story from Alexis's point of view:
I met this guy at a bar through some mutual friends. It was one of those moments where you meet someone and wonder where they've been all your lives. I gave him my number and he asked me out a week after. I genuinely thought we had good chemistry and a really good connection. On our first date alone, he'd already made a bucket list of things for both of us to do. But two weeks and three dates later, he started being distant. I figured he was busy with a big test he was taking, so I backed off for a bit. When I reached out again, he had said he wanted to hang out after he got off working nights. I reached out to him again two weeks later, until finally, he ghosted me and stopped responding all together. I'm not sure if it was because of stress from work, if he found out I dated one of his friends in the past, if he was just not ready to move on after recently breaking up with his ex or if he just thought Zac Brown Band was lame. Either way, it was still hard to not have heard from him, especially since he was the one I lost my virginity to. I honestly do not regret losing my virginity to him, since he was so good to me at that moment ... but in retrospect, I can't help but wonder why the guy who took my virginity stopped talking to me.
Now that you have all of the necessary backstory, here is the ghosting in all of its glory (or lack there of):
So, what do you think? Do you think this guy is the absolute worst human being to have ever walked this earth, like I do? Or maybe you see where he was coming from? In which case, I would LOVE for you to explain it to me.
Maybe you're with Alexis and just think he was busy or not a huge ZBB fan. Maybe you've gone through something exactly like this. Either way, comment here and let's talk it out.
* Name has been changed.