This week, we have Kristin* who was ghosted by one of the owners of the restaurant she works at after they'd been seeing each other for a month:
Hmmm... where should I begin? I had started a new waitressing gig in Philly, and I was super excited about it. (I've been there for five months now.) One owner (who lives in another city and is barely there) started flirting with me and sent me vibes that he was possibly interested. So one hot, summer day in August, I decided I should just Facebook message him 'hey' at 3 am to see if he responded. He responded the next day, so we started talking for a little while on Messenger. Then, he finally asked for my number.
A few days later, he asked me on a date. I was psyched. Everything went well. He started calling me two times a day, which caught me a little off guard because most guys don't even bother talking on the phone. We went on three 'real' dates, and then, we made dinner one night at his apartment in Philly and ordered out another night. In the beginning, he flat out told me he had a 'little one,' so he would always send me pics of him. As things progressed, he also told me he wouldn't jeopardize my job or waste my time. Everything seemed to be going in the right direction. He even talked about me visiting him in another city. But one month after 'hanging out,' he freaking ghosted me.
We didn't have a bad fight — nothing crazy happened. He just ignored my texts and calls. It was a complete curve ball after all the things he was feeding me all along. PLOT TWIST: A week after he ghosted me, I went out to the bar and ran into a girl whom I haven't seen in years. We talked, and she asked where I was working. Then, she told me she had 'matched' with one of the owners. Turns out, it was the guy I was talking to!!!!! She matched with him a month ago apparently, but I don't know how these dating websites work because I haven't joined any... yet. So, I decided to call him out on it:
Clearly, I was a little drunk when I sent the last one. I wish I could make this stuff up, but it was, like, a weird sign. He told me he couldn't juggle more than one girl. Of course, the joke is on me.
So what do you guys make of all this?
To me, the fact that he ghosted her is obviously infuriating in and of itself, but what REALLY gets me is the fact that he went out of his way to lie about how he can't juggle more than one girl.
Like, if you're gonna be a douche, be upfront about it! Don't try to make yourself out to be someone you're not.
Have you ever had a similar situation happen to you? Have you ever been the ghoster in this situation? Have you never experienced any sort of situation remotely like this, but you still have lots of thoughts on the matter? I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU.
Comment all your thoughts and feelings below.
*Names have been changed.