Why Good Guys Need To Expect More From Modern Women
Living in New York has enlightened me to many things about the world.
One, people don't seem to give a crap about the homeless. Two, you can't use a restroom in this city without buying something. And three, too many good men are settling for lesser women.
Now, before you go off on your tangent about how "I've seen so many ugly guys with way more attractive women," let me say this:
I know that exists, I've seen it — we've all seen it — and sometimes, yes, it's mind-boggling. I know that it is a trope in television sitcoms that frumpy guys with hot wives exist. I get it.
With that out of the way, let's examine the other side. In my experience, girls place themselves on a very high pedestal. For guys, it is all about impressing these girls and doing whatever they want, catering to their needs.
As a guy, I have to say that very few women have impressed me. In fact, hardly any of the girls I've been around seem to put much effort at all into landing a guy. Mainly, they just wait around and nothing happens. They just let the flame die, and it doesn't seem to affect them at all because most women know that other guys are waiting in line for their chance.
This is the problem. The desperation guys have for women seems to be at an all-time high. With the existence of online apps like Tinder and OkCupid, guys have devolved into primal creatures, hell-bent on "getting pussy." Girls know that it exists and have, henceforth, been taking sex hostage in order to cash in on their ransom.
What I'm trying to say is, guys, we need to up our standards. Too many women have been mistreating good men simply because they know that if a guy won't bend to their every will, another guy out there will. I've seen it and have experienced it numerous times.
Have some pride, fellas. Look, I understand that sex is great and we all want to have it, but don't lower your standards to that of a begging child just to get it. Don't let someone walk all over you just because you want in. Don't demean yourself in the name of vagina; have some self-respect.
The "league" system has changed. It has changed so much that I don't even know what league I am in anymore. I don't know what is attainable, and I don't know how to become it. I am a fit guy, I go to the gym several times a week, I am a comedian, and I write for this fine website. Some people would find me to be a catch. I don't feel that way at all, though, because it seems to me that women are always expecting more.
It feels like I'm not in the same league as a girl who is also fit and who also has a good job. I feel like I'm still below that and it's because I've been brainwashed by women to think that I'm still not good enough.
I don't doubt that this article may illicit comments like, "Wow, sounds like this guy is bitter." Well, you're right. I am bitter. I'm very bitter for myself and for all the other guys I know who get run through the mud day-in and day-out, and they don't deserve it. I'm bitter for the guys who are genuinely good dudes and who get stepped on by women because society has highlighted to women that men are scum who need to impress and woo you.
As a guy, I have been thoroughly underwhelmed by the women I've met.
Before you angrily hit the comments section, ladies, ask yourself this: When was the last time you put in the effort to see a guy? When was the last time you texted him to hang out?
When was the last time you went the extra mile to impress him and let him know you're interested and assuage his anxiety about you liking him back? When was the last time you approached a man in whom you were interested? When was the last time you sacrificed in order to look better in the eyes of your love interest?
I know there are some women out there who take the time and do put in the effort. I applaud these great women and I hope they get what they deserve: the best.
However, for the lazy ones who think being beautiful is all the work they have to put forth, get serious and better yourselves from within.
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