To All The Heartbroken Men Who Act Tough On The Outside: Don't Give Up Hope

by Heather Hughes

I'm just going to go ahead and call out all you men out there. Yes, even you there, stud muffin, with your sweat-drenched, muscle-pumping, 5 o'clock shadow self. You, much like women, are either currently heartbroken or have been heartbroken by some audacious woman whom you thought was "the one."

You can act tough, but I know that deep down, you are as soft as a teddy bear. Chances are, you have gone through the coulda, shoulda, woulda list. Sadly, you've been left with unanswered and empty questions.

Meanwhile, you are wondering how in the eff you're going to get over this not-so-clever broad and if you'll ever be able to move on.

So, in an attempt to help, here is an open letter to all those tough-on-the-outside, but soft-souled men: You're going to be alright.

Dear Handsome,

I realize that at this current moment in time, you are hurting. You are examining every inch of your life and asking yourself how this happened and why.

While I don't have the answers for you, and I probably never will, I can tell you that someone out there is waiting to love you with all her heart. She is wondering what it would be like to love someone as special as you, and to know what it feels like to be with someone she truly connects with.

I know you don't see it now, and it will take some time, but this is for the better. It's a growing point in your life; some things aren't meant to last forever and they fall apart so better things can fall together.

I can tell you that whoever broke your heart didn't realize how good she had it. Truth be told, she didn't deserve to have you in the first place.

This person has conditioned you to work on yourself, and to help you become an even better man than you already are. You will be someone else's dream come true. There's someone in this world who looks at you and her heart beams. She smiles without even knowing it.

You are always on her mind, and you're the first thing she thinks of when she wakes up. She ask herself how she went this long without knowing someone as awesome as you. That's something to look forward to during this process.

When you've been damaged, the last thing on your mind is someone new. You grasp onto old memories, and just keeping asking, why? What did you do so wrong? Were you not enough? Did you not give enough attention? Did you not love her hard enough? Is there something wrong with you?

I only ask two simple things of you: Stop asking why and please don't blame yourself. Insecurities can truly ruin any relationship, and nine times out of 10, it has nothing to do with you.

It hurts as if your heart has been stabbed with a million burning knives. You're probably thinking you can't move on from this, but I am here to tell you that you can and you will. Whether it's centerstage or behind the curtain, someone cares and will be there for whatever you need.

You probably barely know or might not even know the person who is smiling at the thought of you right now.

When the timing is right, and the stars align in the night sky, it will all work out. Healing is a process, and it takes however long your heart needs.

Wake up each day thinking, "I can and will get through this," and I promise that you will. Keep your beautiful face held high, smile and know that your future is waiting for you.

Take each day in stride, and whatever you do, please don't shut down. You will close yourself off to a love that is waiting for you. Whether you see it or not, you are an incredible individual with so much potential to make someone happier than she ever imagined possible.

We have all been broken before, and it's up to us to rebuild and move forward. It's not the end; just think of how much better your next relationship will be. Forgive her, forgive yourself, make new friends, build bonds with new people and remember to smile.

To the woman who destroyed your amazing heart, thank you. Thank you for letting this incredible man go, and giving someone else the opportunity to love and cherish him the way he deserves. Thank you for quitting and allowing someone new to heal and mend his heart.

True love doesn't quit, and you closed the door. No judgment, just a huge thank you. You are helping someone else's future of pure bliss and happiness come to fruition.

Keep your head up, handsome. She is out there and waiting patiently for when the time is right.

Sincerely, Your Friend 

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