Would you want your partner to tell you if they had cheated? What if it were a drunken mistake? Would you tell your partner if you cheated?
Honestly many people only admit to indiscretions to relieve themselves of their own guilt. Do you REALLY think you are going to make your boyfriend or girlfriend feel better by owning up to this sh*t? If it were a drunken mistake, never to happen again, isn’t it better to spare your partner’s feelings and keep this mistake to yourself?
If you do not know about a problem you won’t be able to make yourself unhappy by worrying about it. It’s one thing to get caught but it is quite another to volunteer this information. Do you really think you could get past cheating? Good luck. Insecurity, bitterness, trust issues, and rage will haunt any future either of you hope to have.
There are situations when honesty is not exactly the best policy. You need to weigh the situation and decide for yourself what the best option is. We all make mistakes and some mistakes are better kept to ourselves. If this was a one time thing, it really may be in your best interest to keep it to yourself. If it is a full blown affair, then its probably time to end your relationship.
If admitting to a mistake is only to clear your conscious don’t do it. However, if it is to prevent future problems and you think you and your partner can work it out then MAYBE you can tell them. Different circumstances yield different solutions. The admission of infidelity is one of the most hurtful things someone can inflict onto someone they claim to love.
Once the infidelity has occurred and ceased with the realization of the error, what is to be gained by sharing the knowledge of your poor behavior to your partner? NOTHING YOU MORON. There is not honesty in infidelity so do not try to make it better by opening your mouth. Sincerity, which imposes unnecessary emotional pain, is not honest!
One of my guy friends recently told me that if he were dating a girl and she started f*cking other guys, that meant he wasn’t doing his job properly and shouldn’t care about this girl anyway. In his eyes, the relationship needs to end immediately since both people are doing things wrong. I’m not really sure why he would get cheated on since he’s so well endowed, but hey to each their own.
For some reason people want to know if their partner is cheating on them and to those people I ask you WHY? I bet half those people think that if a partner fessed up that would be the end of the relationship. FAT CHANCE. These are the girls who turn into whiny little bitches who as a result put their man on a leash. Men feeling guilty succumb to these restraints out of obligation and some imagined sense of moral compass.
If you are an idiot who can’t keep their indiscretions hidden, the truth will usually find a way of revealing itself anyway. You can always free yourself of the burden by telling the truth before it is discovered but if you really think you can get away with it, KEEP YOUR MOUTH CLOSED. You f*cked up, not your partner, why do they need to suffer?
You messed up, you need to deal with the guilt. You may think that honesty is the best policy but once you own up to your mistakes, you are unable to take them back. You risk everything by speaking up, so why not keep your secrets to yourself?
If I were dating someone and every aspect of the relationship was working out and the ONLY thing they did wrong was cheat ONCE, I would not want to know. Obviously the relationship otherwise is working out fine so if it takes my guy sticking his dick somewhere else to keep the peace -- well keep on keepin’ on. However, if you are trying to settle down and start a family, it’s probably not a good idea to be cheating and you will more than likely get caught.
If you ever get caught always remember to deny ‘til you die.