Once upon a time, before the days of Instagram and Tinder, when men wore loose jeans and knew how to approach women, there was a commonly held idea that any man had the ability to get the woman he wanted if he persisted long and hard enough.
However, what was once common knowledge has since grown to be extinct, save a small few. It is my duty to expose this secret and restore fruitfulness and happiness for men.
Why am I exposing the secret? Well, frankly, I (and many other women) want to be hit on like it was done in the old days. I’m providing you blokes with the ammunition to accomplish it, so listen up.
Part One: Get A Number
So you’re at the bar, the gym or whatever other establishment you frequent that women inhabit. The first key to getting that hot girl’s number is talking to her.
Now remember, your goal is to get her number, not to slip her yours or to just look at her in hopes that she will do your job for you. The first key to getting what you want is to ask for it. So, man up and approach her.
You can choose from three methods for your approach (depending on the attributes you possess): If you’re the funny, clever type, use entertaining conversation to casually win her over; if you’re sexy and you know it, you won’t have to do all that much after you open your mouth — just ask for her number and mean it; or if you fear that you are neither Fabio nor a smooth talker, just compliment her until she turns red.
Don’t lie; just be genuine and tell her that when you saw her, you had to speak to her. Also, tell her how beautiful she is and how drawn you are to her. If you can make her feel special in those few minutes, why wouldn’t she want more of that feeling and happily surrender her digits?
Part Two: Get A Date
Just because you have her number doesn’t mean you’ll automatically get a date. However, getting a date is obviously key in your ultimate goal to win her over. So, sell her all the “benefits” you have (getting her number was more about telling her how amazing she is).
Don’t wait three days to contact her; everybody knows that “rule,” but it’s stupid and yields no results. You asked for her number, so make good use of it! The three-day rule is very faulty, particularly if it falls over a weekend because it allows her too much time to meet somebody who she might prefer over you.
Act swiftly; pick up the phone, dial her number and make a date. I recommend a quick call instead of texting, which I know will be very difficult for many of you, as the fear of rejection is high. Although a phone conversation may feel high risk, it yields the greatest results.
When you call, have a plan — know when, know how and know where. Be confident, direct and make her an offer she can’t refuse. Do dinner over a drink or something creative that will leave her a fun memory to associate with you.
On the date, don’t forget to ask her questions about herself, rather than trying to impress her by talking about you too much. Make sure you listen, as well; your recall of certain information will impress her in the future.
Don’t try and kiss her on the first date, but do text her a little while after dropping her off, or seeing her home. Remember, the three-day rule won't do you any favors!
Part Three: Get Some Sugar
Taking a girl out on a date is all good and well, but eventually, you will need to get physical or you will find yourself forever doomed to the friend zone.
The way you go about getting physical is very important and can mean the difference between that awkward moment when she runs for dear life and the moment you win her over.
If it feels right, go for it and kiss her, but whatever you do, don’t “surprise” her with some unexpected tongue, hoping she won’t notice. You do need a cue from her, but never ask her verbally if you can kiss her. Do the work and make her want it.
I won’t detail how you make her want it, but I will tell you that women are less visual than men and can find themselves incredibly attracted to someone they initially wouldn’t have looked at twice. You don’t have the power to change her eyesight, but you do have the power to make her feel incredible around you.
Part Four: Get The Girl
You’ve worked your magic, managed to get her number, date her and surpass the friend zone. No one expected you to get this far, but you did it. Don’t pat yourself on the back yet, though; she’s not your girlfriend.
Most women like the idea of a relationship and are inclined toward that direction by this point of the courtship; however, some women are a bit tougher to win over.
These women may have way too many other options, a preconceived notion of what their partner should be like (a vision which you don’t fit) or they’re just not sure about you — yet.
The key to making her yours is persistence and assuming that she wants to be with you. Like anything in life, confidence and persistence reign superior.
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