How To Have Your Cake And Eat It Too


According to my view on life, there are two different goals worth having. Unfortunately, the two tend not to be complementary, but rather inhibit the possibility of the other — to some extent.

Life is only worth living if you are either working the grind and putting in all your effort to make something of yourself — make yourself a legend — or, you are putting all your time and energy into the only other thing that matters in this world: finding a person to love and with whom you can share your life.

Both, when looked at closely, are forms of love; you either have love and passion for what you do or you have love and passion for who you do. Sadly, both require just about all of our time and focus, leaving the possibility of the other basically nonexistent.

Each and every one of us has a decision to make. Assuming that you are not a waste and that you are thankful to be given the gift of life, then you must agree that wasting the little time that you have is silly. We all inevitably reach a point in our lives when we start to take time to really think about what matters most to us and what we want most out of life.

For some people it will be fame and fortune, for others only wealth, for some friends and family, and for the romantics — a love to last the ages. Because we are only human, we will find that most of us want it all. We don’t just want to have dessert, we want to have dessert and 0% body fat.

We don’t just want a job that we love, we want a job that we love that will make us incredibly wealthy. We don’t just want the career of our dreams, we want a loving and caring life partner that will be there to love us and support us.

Having your cake and eating it is not easy — but it is possible. All that it takes is some smart time management and life planning. Not to say that life allows for much precise planning, but you have to have some sort of blueprint of how you want your life to go — whatever happens along the way will just require you to adapt and roll with the punches.

The most important decision that you will make in your life is deciding whether you want to pursue your passions or your love. Actually…let me rephrase that: the most important realization you will come to in your life is coming to terms with what is more important to you right now, your passions or love.

I understand that you want both; you want to be the greatest of the greats and you want someone who will love you more than they love themselves. I completely understand where you are coming from because I am in the exact same boat.

I am extremely motivated and competitive, but at the same time I am a lover at heart. So take my advice — I tried to do both but failed miserably. You have to choose one or the other. You either put your career, your passions on the back burner or you forget about love; it’s that simple.

It’s not easy, but it is that simple. Not to worry — this does not mean that you can’t both do what you love and love who you love. You just need to do what is more important to you at the moment and trust that life will be kind and bring you the other when the time is right.

If you have faith that life will work out the best way possible, then it will. It may sound like a silly concept, but faith can do wonders for the soul. Even if only giving you a positive outlook on life, that positivity is bound to manifest itself and attract other good, positive things to your life.

You just need to make sure to stay true to yourself and to your wants and beliefs. Follow the path that you know in your bones that you need to follow — it won’t lead you astray. The only way to be successful in both love and your career is to be true to what matters most to you during the time that you need to make that decision.

Anything worth having requires a bit of sacrifice, but if you believe that life is your playground and that you can build anything in that sandbox that your imagination can concoct — like I do — then you have to trust that following your instincts will lead you to the best possible outcome.

You have to either choose your career or your love life until you have achieved all that you need to achieve with one. Once you have conquered one, you can go and conquer the other. Trying to do both, like all complex things that deny the practices of multitasking, will leave you both incomplete and feeling unfulfilled.

This will only lead to your unhappiness, the unhappiness of your partner and a career that isn’t as fruitful as you would have hoped. You can have both the love that fills up fairy tales and a very successful career. You just can’t split yourself between constructing both projects at the same time.

Paul Hudson | Elite.

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