Anyone who has seen the trailers for Pan Am knows that nothing screams sexy quite like flight attendants rocking stilettos. No, this isn’t a one-way ticket to the mile-high club—but picking up a knockout at her workplace is a lot simpler than you think.
“It’s up to you to make it happen,” says R. Don Steele, author of Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship & Dating. “Women are attracted to men who go after what they want.” Plus, it’s her workplace, so she needs to be professional.
Before you make your big move, make sure her body language is inviting. Note if she’s blushing, constantly making eye contact, and tilting her head playfully—it could mean she’s interested, says Steele.
OK, then what? Here’s how to make your move in different scenarios.
She’s a barista Be friendly, initiate small talk, leave a tip, and always address her by her name, explains Renee Piane, author of Love Mechanics. “Women respond best to men they’re comfortable with.” After you’ve visited a few times, you can make your move, and ask her out for coffee—outside of the cafe.
She’s your doctor Be discrete. “Since this is a private setting—most likely involving just the two of you in her office—you don’t want to come on too strong,” says Steele. The best time to make your move is on the way out. “Be direct and give her your business card,” says Steele. “Dragging the moment out can be awkward.”
She’s a personal trainer Don’t be creepy. Keep in mind that she gets hit on numerous times throughout the day. Your solution? Be friendly with other people in the gym, too, which will make her feel less threatened by your advances, says Piane. As she sees how you treat others in the gym, she’ll feel more comfortable around you. Ask her to grab a bite when her shift is over, suggests Paine. Bonus points if you casually mention a healthy restaurant.
She’s a receptionist Be charming, explains Piane. No guy is ever there to meet with the receptionist, he’s there to meet her boss. So make her feel important, says Piane.
Stick out your hand, introduce yourself, flash a smile, and try and make her laugh. “These women are so used to their routine, joking and smiling will make them melt,” says Piane. Don’t make her feel uncomfortable in the waiting room. Just leave your card and say you’d like to see her again.
She’s your flight attendant Talk to her individually a few times, but be subtle. Ask for an extra pillow, order a drink, anything to make contact, suggests Piane. Start a conversation while waiting for the bathroom, if you can.
Here’s the problem: She probably has another flight lined up and might not be from the area. Ask her to get a drink near the airport later, which is less time-consuming than a full-on dinner.