Music and reality TV have got the minds of the millennial males misconstrued. The media makes falling in love and spending time with someone you care about seem like a "bad" thing. We continuously read articles from people of this generation having such an "anti-relationship" mindset. This generation needs more love and less selfishness. Here's a few reasons why finding that special girl in your early 20s may be best:
Get your life together in your 20s and not you 30s
Having a healthy relationship offers you consistency and stability. It may be more "fun" having a ton of girls texting your phone but it's a lot more stressful trying to make all those girls happy. Get a girlfriend and direct that focus elsewhere. People are eating healthier and living longer so don't waste your 20s being a complete f*ck up.
Waiting until your 30s to "settle down" is a risky game. The playing field is a lot more difficult and less appealing once you reach adulthood. Thirty is the new 20 and by 30 you should want true stability, you don't want to waste your adult prime going out on dates.
A clear direction of focus
Although your single homeboys are making the single life seem awesome (as it is), having a healthy relationship with a girl can enhance your overall stability. Girls are the driving force of male behavior. While your male counterparts are out spending money on drinks, spending countless nights masturbating, and sending texts to numerous girls who aren't interested, you have better things to do. Having a girlfriend will allow you to direct your focus on things you enjoy most; such as your art, your career, or any other hobbies you may have.
After spending countless nights pillow talking with your girlfriend, you may begin to open up about your thoughts on the future and, more specifically, your future. Because you have someone who cares for you other than yourself, you now have a partner to join your "dream team" to combat each of your futures. A good girl will help support your vision and keep you on track. Let's face it, girls are a bit more mature and have the ability to keep guys more grounded and focused. Now don't get selfish, your job is to support her in her endeavors as well.
A matured idea on "opposites attract"
Your girlfriend is not going to be the same as you, in fact she may be the polar opposite. The two of you will come from a different culture, family and social background. Learning to work through problems with someone who is the polar opposite will enable you to increase your overall patience for diverse backgrounds on every frontier, not just with your girlfriend, but the world.
A shoulder to cry on
Okay maybe not cry, but at least one to lean on. So many mishaps occur for a guy in his early twenties. Whether it be getting arrested, getting fired from your job, or just being a complete idiot, you need that person around who won't pass judgment and serve as your distraction from destruction. Girls are much more compassionate than your male counterparts. You're wasting your time venting to them. They'll just tell you to drink a beer and get over it.
Some would disagree, but having a girlfriend is more cost effective for your wallet. In no way am I implying you grab some sugar mama, or start using some low self-esteem girl for her bank account, but more of a "utilize your resources" type approach. In your early 20s, money is always the issue. Most likely both of you are pretty broke, but together you guys are pretty well off.
With your long-time girlfriend, you can now split the cost of the following items: rent, gas, food, spirits and the hotel for your vacation(a vacation because you have the extra cash). And besides going on several dates with one girl is cheaper than going on several dates with several girls.
More Adventures, Always having a "homie"
I mean, who's really going to go see "The Great Gatsby" with you? Surely not any of your male friends. Having a girlfriend allows you to indulge in so many other activities that you can't do with your male friends. And besides, some things are more enjoyable if someone of the opposite sex is present. You can always count on your girlfriend to roll out with you in case your boys sell you out.
Ability to become selfless
Finally, this is the best quality to obtain from a relationship. We live in such an individualistic society and for millennials that means complete selfishness. Selfishness is an ugly trait and will only lead to bad things happening in this society. Obtaining the the ability to care about someone else other than yourself is all this generation needs to fix its problems. Having a girlfriend will, all in all, teach you that it's not always about you!
Modern monogamy can exist within this generation. Don't let music, negative people, home wreckers, whores or womanizers stir you away from that idea. Your true loyalty to your girlfriend will increase your overall character. The ability to be loyal and commit to someone will even increase your overall level of respect other people have for you. In a generation where it's so easy to cheat, and take the easy way out, your ability to be honest, commit and love another person will help you prevail in the end.
Rashaad Denzel | Elite.