Dating Advice For Men & Women In Their 20s From Matchmakers


There's no easy way to say it: Dating is hard. Sure, you can probably go to a bar or swipe on Tinder to find a random one-night stand if you really wanted to. But going on actual dates, meeting actual people, and maybe, possibly committing to someone forever? That can feel impossible.

Providing dating advice for men and women in their 20s can sometimes feel impossible, because we often stand in our own way on our search for finding the right person. We believe we need to have crazy sparks with someone on a first date, so we dismiss awesome people because we don't become obsessed with them right away. We're acutely aware of all the options out there, so we're tempted to just look for someone else when we get bored of whomever we've been seeing. We focus too much on the sex, so we realize too late that we aren't as compatible with someone as we thought we were.

In other words, we need all the help we can get. That's why eight matchmakers have come together to give all of us one vital piece of dating advice. Take notes.

Don't Expect "Chemistry" To Instantly Pull You In

— Erika Kaplan, Senior Matchmaker of Three Day Rule

Take Dating Seriously

— Lori Salkin, Senior Matchmaker and Dating Coach

Don't Take True Love For Granted

Karenna Alexander, Matchmaker and Dating Coach

Smart, Successful, Geek Guys Make Better Husbands Than Hot, Bad Boys

— Stef Safran, Matchmaker at Stef and the City

Wait To Have Sex Until You Have Defined The Relationship

— Alessandra Conti, Top LA Matchmaker at Matchmakers In The City

Happiness Comes From You

—  Julia Bekker, Matchmaker and Dating Coach at Hunting Maven

Recognize Your Signature Dating Mistake

— Susan Trombetti, Matchmaker at Exclusive Matchmaking

Know You Are Worthy Of Love

— Alyssa Bunn, Professional Matchmaker at Tawkify and Creator of Love + Co.

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