Being in a relationship is difficult these days. You see, we’re humans, and humans are nurturing. Well, a few of us are -- mostly the females. It’s natural for us to want love and affection straight off the bat, often because we crave reassurance.
Females, whether they admit to it or not, enjoy being pampered. No, that doesn’t mean you have to buy us manicure/pedicure packages or flowers every week. What I mean by being pampered is showing positive emotion and sweet gestures every once in a while, maybe even once or twice a week.
A nice text every day works or even a FaceTime call. When a girl feels comfortable with her trust in you, it’s smooth sailing from then on.
We’ve all dated different types of guys and all of them are in our past for a reason. You may have had a guy who gave you all of his attention and suffocated you with his overbearing kindness.
You’ve probably also dated a guy who didn’t give you constant attention while you were both apart, but reassured you when you were together. You've definitely dated a guy who just didn’t give a sh*t.
In any case, you ended the relationship because one of you wasn’t happy.
There are four different types of guys in this world. Let me list and explain below:
1. The guy who immediately shows you he cares and caters to your every need
This guy gives me anxiety. Women don’t want to feel as though they are dating their girlfriends. Showing all of their love and affection after day one ruins the mystery and fun in the relationship.
Being available is heartwarming at first, but if you are available every single day and show up with flowers while reciting poems to us, we will definitely split. Don’t get me wrong; some women love this, but females like a good challenge. We want to learn something new about you every day, not in one day.
2. The guy who never shows you he cares
This guy is just an assh*le. If you have been talking or dating for months and you’ve completely opened up to him, but he hasn’t done one cute sentimental thing for you, don't bother.
If he doesn’t comfort you now, he just won’t comfort you in the long run. When a guy likes a girl, he will make the effort to impress her. If he doesn’t hug you, kiss you or hold your hand, get the f*ck away from him. He will only keep you emotionally unstable and feeling undesirable.
3. The guy who cares but then ends up quitting
Some guys put all of their time and effort in a girl and then just quit after they get what they wanted. I’m pretty sure this is the most common type of male we encounter in our college days and in our 20s.
This guy makes us believe that he’s the one, and as soon as we show him that he has the key to our hearts, he has lost interest. This is the type of guy we question the most in our heads, and we take this heartbreak to the grave because we usually end up blaming ourselves for this relationship ending.
4. The guy who doesn’t rush, but continuously shows you he cares and teaches you that patience is a good thing
This is a great guy. In the beginning, he will showcase his kindness and respect for you because he doesn’t want to ruin things with you. He picks up the phone and texts you a few times a day letting you know he is thinking about you.
He sets up dates in advance because he knows it will mean much more when you have something to look forward to all day. He’s not afraid to bring you out with his friends and give you occasional kisses on the cheek (because saving the rest of your chemical attraction for the private eye is sexier).
Most importantly, he reassures you that he still digs you, even when you don’t have to ask for it. This guy doesn’t rush into things too quickly or give up; he is happy when you are.
Being in a relationship means working together in sync. You'll know your partner is the right one when he is willing to make things work with you instead of running away.
In order to find the right one, you have to eliminate the wrong ones. Get them in and out of your life fast because once you go through terrible emotions over someone who isn’t worth your time, you will realize what you want and don’t want in a serious relationship.
Happiness is the key to a successful relationship. When you find the right one, you will know. It won’t be easy, but as long as you two are working together, it will definitely be worth it.
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