"Why won't he call me his girlfriend?"
So many women ask themselves this painful -- albeit relevant -- question.
You might be thinking to yourself, "Wait, are you kidding me? You're saying it's a GOOD thing if a man is refusing to make things official and declare to the world you are his girlfriend?"
OK, I realize this might come off as insane to you.
I realize there is nothing more infuriating than when a man spends time with you, seems to like you and even has sex with you, yet refuses to put a title on things; refuses to be “official” and actually proudly introduce you to others on his arm.
Being called his “girlfriend” is a coveted name so many women are after. But the irony is, most don't think about the alternative. What if him NOT calling you his girlfriend is actually a blessing in disguise?
Here are four reasons why it's actually a good thing not a debacle he's not calling you his “bae.”
PS. I really dislike that word, but I was tired of using girlfriend over and over again.
1. You get to see other guys (technically).
Unless you have made a commitment to each other to be monogamous and not see other people, you are free to see and hang out with any man you want.
Think about it. You are getting to enjoy one man right now but you are also not bound by this agreement.
Have you ever met a guy you felt extremely attracted to, but then had to deny yourself the pleasure of flirting because you had a boyfriend?
Maybe you even flirted back a bit but obviously did not take it too far, leaving you feeling a sense of “missing out."
And guess what? If he is not locking you down and making you his “official” girlfriend, there is really no reason to not date other people.
Obviously, this means he is allowed to do what he wants, too, and see other women.
If you two are spending a lot of time together but he won't address the issue of monogamy or discuss whether you two are going to be official, there is no reason for you not to meet and enjoy the company of other men.
I am not saying go sleep with random guys just for the sake of it. That is a horrible idea. All I am saying is if you do feel the urge to flirt, you can. And you should, because he has not locked you down.
2. You won't have to deal with pressure.
Yes, I know… it is probably a secret fantasy of yours to be able to be introduced to his entire family and all his friends as his girlfriend, but have you also considered the pressure of meeting everyone and being concerned about whether they like you or not?
This is not exactly fun, especially if you're dealing with people who are intimidating and unfriendly.
Because you are not his girlfriend, you don't need to worry about this kind of pressure.
3. You're able to find someone who truly "fits."
If you are with a guy who you want to become official with, you might think to yourself, "Of course this is something I want! The relationship is going to be amazing." However, where do you base this assumption from?
Think about it. You're actually dodging a bullet by not being official with someone who you have to convince in any way, shape or form to make you his girlfriend!
So there you go. Now you know the title “girlfriend” isn't always the be-all and end-all.
If you need another source, A New Mode has more examples of the positives of not being his Girlfriend with a capital G.