Who really has the right to determine the actual meanings of smart and sexy? Are you considered smart because you have a high IQ?
Are you considered sexy because you have luscious lips and a banging body?
Defining smart and sexy is paramount for discussion, but loosely defined. Anyone has the potential to be smart and sexy, depending on an individual’s wants and needs.
Here are the main reasons why being smart is sexy:
1. Being smart is knowing the extent of your ignorance and that you don't need to be right.
Being smart is being willing to listen to others' perspectives and accepting the fact that you may be wrong. Some of you may think that what I am saying right now is wrong, and that’s okay, so long as you are willing to accept perspectives outside of your own.
Being smart is simply recognizing that you don’t know it all and that you probably never will.
It's knowing that there are concepts, social faux pas and ideologies about which you may not know. It is also knowing that your frame of mind is not the only reality that exists.
Acknowledging that you don’t know everything is sexy.
2. Being smart is attempting to learn about the world and the people in it.
Notice how I said the word "attempt?" Being smart means taking the time out of your day to make mistakes and learn from them. It’s learning about past and current world affairs to provide you with context.
Being smart is getting to know people rather than judging them based on how they look or what you previously heard. Being smart is the simple awareness that each person has his or her own story.
Being smart isn’t knowing everything, it's attempting to understand the world and the people in it. That is sexy.
3. Being smart is leaving room for mistakes.
I’m sure each of us can think of one person whom we consider smartest; a person who just seems to know everything. Be aware that no one person is good at or smart about everything.
Just because one person is “smart” when it comes to books does not mean that the same person is “smart” when it comes to streets. Maybe I can get an A on a test without studying for it, but I can’t seem to make friends as easily or vise versa.
I will make mistakes — maybe once, maybe numerous times —, but as long as I allow room for mistakes, I'm open to learning from them. Being smart is having the confidence to own up to the mistakes you make. That is sexy.
4. Being smart means having deep conversations.
People are not stupid, but we often judge others and dismiss situations as being stupid. Our unwillingness to see another person’s point of view only limits our own and does not allow any room for a meaningful conversation.
The fact that you are able to listen to other people's thoughts, feelings and opinions, as well as communicate your own in a selfless and humble manner is the sexiest thing of all.
5. Being smart is acknowledging that there are no stupid people.
We are all human, with different capabilities and disabilities. We’re all good at something and we’re all bad at something, too. Albert Einstein said it best: “It’s not that I am so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.”
The best way to explain this is that every person has the potential to be smart and even be stupid. If you are being stupid, you are simply choosing not to learn or engage with people or things.
Some people have to work at this way harder than others, but if you are open to being smart, then you can be — and that is sexy.
6. Being smart is the ability to win over someone's mind before his or her heart.
Now, that’s sexy.