There's something wrong with me.
No seriously. I suffocate the people I adore with immense amounts of love and random gifts. It took me a while to realize it, but now I know: I have Mother Teresa syndrome.
Recently my best friend hosted an intervention of sorts. She pretended she was coming to hang out with me but in reality, she was there to tell me I'm an idiot and that I'm too nice.
She isn't wrong.
But I'm here to reassure the nice girls of this world.
Here are four reasons why you don't need to activate bitch mode to attract the guy of your dreams.
1.The guy you want to keep will want to be treated well.
Your kindness has nothing to do with why he pulled away.
If a guy decided to walk away or act differently because you were nice, it's pretty damn simple: he wasn't the right one for you.
Don't sell yourself short. Be your true self and you'll land someone who loves you for who you are. He'll love that you're kind.
2.You're easier to talk to and you're attentive.
Oh, tell me more about how nice girls finish last.
I don't buy it.
Being nice isn't about achieving or attaining something. It's about being yourself.
Being kind is the most important thing in life, in my opinion. I think it's something we should all strive to be at all times.
Good guys are drawn to women who can listen to what they have to say AND assert their opinion without coming off bitchy.
Being kind doesn't mean you dull your voice. It means you're not quick to pass judgment and are understanding enough always to hear the other person out.
3. You appreciate and recognize people's efforts.
All too often, nice guys end up with girls who take their gestures for granted.
That's where nice girls are different and awesome. Guys recognize that and can sense you are aware of what they do for you. They feel valued and know their gestures are worthwhile.
4. Your actions and words carry weight.
Nice girls don't do fluff: They're not backstabbers, pushovers or bitches.
They do things from the bottom of their heart and instead of talking a big game, they just do the do.
They perform kind acts without reward or praise.
Call me crazy but nothing is more fulfilling and exciting than being with someone who is willing to do whatever it takes to see that smile on your face.
Most of my guy friends agree they would much rather date a girl who puts themselves out there and is genuine, kind and real. In their eyes, those girls are gems that leave a lasting impression.
And if the guy you're dating or talking to can't appreciate your dopeness, then you should walk away because they suck.
So even if it takes time and you begin to question whether it's your kindness and niceness that's getting you down in the dating world, think again about what type of person you want to share your life with in the long run.