Robert Zaleski

Why Fall Romances Are Hotter And Steamier Than Summer Flings


Let the leaves float down over my head and kiss my cheeks. Let my lover draw close and keep me warm.

Fall, the wonderful season of pulling out heavy comforters and lighting fireplaces, is soon approaching. I'm excited to snuggle, get coupled up and find love again.

Fall makes finding and falling in love easy. Summer gave us one-night stands and fleeting, short-term relationships. But fall gives us cozy, quality time and strong foundations for incredible connections.

With that said, I’m eagerly grabbing my pen and checking off the calendar, counting down the days until I kiss summer goodbye, and say hello to some new, longer-lasting beau.

And I’m not the only one who thinks this. Recently, I was out to dinner with a large group of friends, drinking, eating and listening to the myriad conversations fluttering around the table. Eighteen different people talked about the same thing: finding love.

I immediately recognized this as a drastic change from what this same group discussed just a few months prior.

While summer was in the air, the banter was about going out, having fun, meeting people and trying new experiences.

As I sipped my cocktail, it seemed apparent my friends spent these past summer months releasing all of their pent-up, spastic energy. And finally, with spirits calmer, it was now time for settling down.

I thought about why this was happening.

From hearing everyone’s enthusiasm about finding love and settling down spread around the table, it seemed the things that matter most to us in life are relationships and commitment. They are what we desire.

Sure, bikinis, hot guys at the beach and tanning are also sexy, but so is someone holding you on a cool fall day. You want someone to hang out with, someone to feed popcorn to on the couch and someone to romp around in bed with.

All this time spent coupling up allows us to get to know one another on a deeper level.

Don't get me wrong; summer is great, but it is also fleeting and temporary. Even Vegas gets tiresome after awhile. And summer is no different.

So when fall rolls around, it is a breath of fresh air. We want to return to our little routines and to find stability, which is the complete opposite of the whimsical nature of summer.

Fall also makes flirting feel new again. Our partners leap at the chance to warm us up and hold our bodies more closely. When we can show our partners compassion, care and concern, we experience a different level of intimacy.

Being in tune with our partners' needs creates the immediate assurance they are loved and cared for. Not only will their bodies heat us up, but we will warm them with our tender actions.

The fall also allows us to be vulnerable. And opening up doesn’t happen in short-term flings or summer couplings. A soul-pouring, heart-revealing emotional connection gets our hearts pumping more than one-night stands.

The more I listened to everyone at dinner talk about coupling up, I realized two things: I am looking forward to falling in love with fall, and I am looking forward to finding me some good lovin’.