Finding “the one” takes time and effort, even with all the online dating sites and dating apps that exist.
Sometimes, the app sets you up with the absolutely wrong person, or the person you give your number to doesn't call you.
Let’s face it: Dating is a game.
Playing games can be exhausting, and a lot of the time, you can't win.
However, there’s one dating game you’ll always win: dating yourself.
I've been dating myself since my last breakup.
Quite honestly, it’s the best relationship I've ever been in.
1. It’s empowering.
Seeing a person at a movie or a restaurant alone is like seeing a celebrity at your library. It’s rare.
In today’s society, the majority of people would rather stay home, because people wouldn't dare to go out alone.
I like to take myself on a date at least once a week. Whether it’s to get coffee or a full dinner and movie, I pamper myself.
At first, the staring from others made me uncomfortable.
But the more I date myself, the more confident I become.
After these dates, I felt unstoppable, like I could do anything.
2. I don’t have to impress anyone.
On dates (especially the first one), you have a sudden, uncontrollable urge to impress.
We make sure we have nothing in our teeth. We fiddle with those loose hairs. We've prepared topics in case the conversation dies or gets awkward.
When I date myself, I don’t have to impress anyone.
I can wear whatever I want, and I know I’ll love it. I can roll out of bed and go to breakfast without even looking in the mirror once, and I’ll still have a good time.
What about those awkward, get-to-know-you conversations? None.
I already know who I am. I don’t need to share my greatest accomplishments or tell my best jokes. I can sit back, relax and enjoy whatever I’m doing.
Sometimes, I get to know myself better by trying new things, because I’m not afraid to embarrass myself.
The worry of being perfect has completely gone since I've started dating myself.
3. I can do what I want.
When you date someone other than yourself, there’s the recurring problem of where to go. Your SO wants to go somewhere, and you want to go somewhere else.
This conversation could take forever, until you finally compromise.
That problem is nonexistent when you date yourself.
You can literally do anything you want. If I want to go see the new Bradley Cooper movie, I will. If I want to go eat at that hip new restaurant, I will.
There is no 30-minute conversation trying to find a place that suits both people’s wishes.
There is a minute of deciding where I want to take myself. Every single time, I’m happy.
Dating myself is putting “me” time aside. It’s time I can focus solely on myself.
With my busy, everyday schedule, I need time to myself.
By dating myself, I've found out who I am, taken better care of myself and, overall, become more confident than ever before.
The time I’ve spent dating myself has helped me create who I want to be, without the boundaries of a relationship.
When one plays games, there are winners and losers. That’s just how it is.
The dating game, however, is even worse.
If you win, you feel amazing. But if you lose, you feel awful.
Sometimes, it takes a while before you go back in there and play again.
When you date yourself, there are no games — only winners.