10 Reasons Not To Stress About Relationship Status On Valentine’s Day
There is no doubting the fact that Valentine’s Day is around the corner; it can lead us single gals to have some unpleasant feelings about the whole idea of it.
Seeing friends in seemingly happy relationships and going out on romantic Valentine’s Day dates while you are still single can sound a little depressing.
But, in reality, Valentine’s Day is not all it's cracked up to be.
Here are 10 kick-ass reasons why you shouldn’t worry about your relationship status on Valentine’s Day, whether it is your first February 14 alone, or you have been single for years.
1. Unrealistic expectations set by Hollywood
Often, when we think about romantic gestures for Valentine’s Day, we imagine beautiful images of candle-lit dinners, roses and that scene from "Say Anything" where John Cusack holds a boom box over his head in the middle of the street to proclaim his love.
Or, of course, "The Notebook," when Noah writes thousands of letters to Allie to express his undying affection for her. Even Jack sacrificing himself for Rose to live in "Titanic" set some pretty high expectations for the men out there.
But, in reality, sometimes, with such high expectations, we will only experience disappointment when our boyfriends don’t go to the extreme like the men in the fantasy of Hollywood we have come to know and love.
The plus side here is no boyfriend equals no disappointments, so you can focus on more important things, like picturing a young Leonardo DiCaprio with you in that steamy car scene.
2. It is a Hallmark holiday
Valentine’s Day, sadly, has become a holiday all about how much money your significant other spends on you. Similar to Christmas, the true meaning of the holiday has been lost over the years.
Valentine’s Day is supposed to be about showing someone you love him or her, but now, it is all about how much you can buy for someone, and every store looks like it had a pink, heart-shaped tornado fly through it. Vomit.
3. You can go out with your single girlfriends
Valentine’s Day is on a Saturday this year! In other words, there is no excuse for sitting home and feeling sad about it.
Gather up your single girlfriends and hit the town! Who knows who you will meet…
4. You can focus on your friends, family and career
Being a strong, single and independent woman is an amazing thing. You are in control of your life, your time and where you are going.
Being single on Valentine’s Day, or any other day, means you are free to focus on yourself. You don’t have the added pressure of worrying about someone else all of the time.
You can hang out with your friends whenever you want, make extra time to see your family and center your attention on your career/other passions.
5. The relationships you are jealous of are not as perfect as they seem
Never compare yourself to other people. Every person you know is at a different stage in his or her life.
Just because people have something different from what you have, does not mean their lives are better or worse. Focus on what you have and what you want.
Chances are no one is completely satisfied with what they do have. Even the most glamorous and beautiful-looking life has its issues.
6. Saving money
If you are single on Valentine’s Day, you will, without a doubt, save a lot of money you would have otherwise spent trying to pull of your romantic gestures (that will still never meet expectations...)
7. "Fifty Shades of Grey"
"Fifty Shades" comes out on Valentine’s Day. Jamie Dornan. Christian Grey. Enough said.
8. February 14 is just another day in the calendar
When you think about it, February 14 is just another day. There is no reason it should make you feel any emotions about your relationship status.
If you are in a relationship, I ask you this: Why do you have wait until a Hallmark holiday to display your love?
9. Knowing you will not always be single on Valentine’s Day
There will be many Valentine’s Days in your life. On some of them, you will be single; on some of them, you will be in a relationship.
Things change; you never know what will happen. Don’t stress about today, just think about all of the good tomorrow will bring.
If you still feel bad about being single on Valentine’s Day, there is always wine.