10 Qualities Every Alpha Male Should Look For In A Girlfriend

by Paul Hudson

Alpha men and women are those who shape the world. They are our leaders, our trendsetters, our troublemakers and our innovators. Without them, the human race could not progress.

Being an alpha male is great in many ways and depressing in countless others. More often than not, we’ll find the most difficult task for us is finding a partner -- finding someone to rule the world with us.

Finding an ideal girlfriend is never easy... but for alpha males, it’s even more difficult. The same goes for alpha women looking for their counterparts. Step one is understanding what you need to look for. If you’re an alpha male, you may find this list incredibly useful:

1. Loyalty

There isn’t much alpha males values over loyalty -- they are pack leaders and expect those they lead to commit and stay loyal to them. Of course, an alpha male’s girlfriend won’t so much be a part of the pack, but rather a queen sitting next to him on their respective thrones. He expects unwavering loyalty -- and understandably so.

2. Intellect

Alpha males aren’t brutes. It may have been the case so many millions of years ago, but due to evolution, intelligence is now key. For an alpha male to be seen as an alpha male, he must be incredibly intelligent. Otherwise, he will find no pack to lead.

Alpha males often fall into the habit of finding women who value superficial things over intellect. Unfortunately, this never works out in the end; the alpha male gets bored, realizes he made a mistake, and calls it quits. The smarter you are, the smarter your girlfriend must be.

3. Passion

Alpha males are driven by passion, by their wants, needs, goals and dreams. Their sole purpose in life is to create the lives they wish for themselves.

This is often why they have such a difficult time finding women with whom they wish to share their lives -- few can keep up. If you’re an alpha male and are looking for a partner, then look for a woman who will actually act as a partner. Passion is required.

4. Vision

Living life as an alpha male isn’t easy -- in fact, it’s much more difficult. Everything is a competition. Everything has a purpose or a reason. We thrive off what we envision our lives to be, but holding on to that vision can be difficult.

There is nothing more dangerous in the world than an alpha male who loses that vision, who loses the understanding of why he exists. Find yourself a girlfriend who has her own vision of her ideal reality, and the two of you will never lose track.

5. Control

Control is the magical ingredient that turns dreams into reality. Alpha males get off on control more than anything else. This is why we need a woman who has control over herself and her own life.

Alpha males like to be in control of their pack, but their woman isn’t part of that pack; she’s part of him.

In order for the relationship to work, she needs to have as much control over her reality as he does. Hopefully, she’ll also have some control over him -- sometimes alpha males need a bit of that.

6. Unpredictability

Alpha males love mystery, unpredictability, the unknown. We love puzzles -- plain and simple. When something is predictable, it bores us.

We already have an incredibly strong grasp on the likely outcomes of situations -- which is why people tend to follow us -- so when we find something, or someone, we can’t entirely get a grasp of, it fascinates us. If a woman can fascinate us and continue to fascinate us, she will never lose us.

7. Patience

We aren’t easy people to live with. I wish it were otherwise, but that’s the truth. Half the time, we’re fighting the world and the rest of the time we’re fighting ourselves -- it’s exhausting. And difficult to deal with if you’re an alpha male’s girlfriend.

Alpha males must find patient partners if they wish to build a lasting romantic relationship. It may take some time for us to come into our own, but when we do, it’ll be worth it; we will fight for you with more fervor than we’d fight for our own lives.

8. Assertiveness

Showing confidence and being assertive is what we rely on. We do what we do, when we want to do it, because we want to do it -- and we need a woman who will do the same. There is nothing more unattractive to an alpha male than a woman who is unsure of herself; we just don't find indecision sexy.

9. Egocentricity

Being in love is difficult for alpha males as it requires a level of selflessness that feels almost unnatural. We’re incredibly egocentric individuals and, most of the time, we’re very happy that way. We’re only human, however, and we can’t be alone forever.

We need love and compassion just like the next guy. The problem arises when we try and balance keeping our individuality with being in a loving relationship -- a relationship in which we are to give up a piece of ourselves.

This is why the only way for us to make a relationship work is to find a girlfriend who is both equally egocentric and caring.

10. A touch of stubbornness

Why? Because alpha males are incredibly stubborn -- and we need someone who can compete. It’s crucial that in a relationship there’s a balance between give and take, stubbornness and understanding.

We need a woman who will hold her ground, a woman who will speak her mind and do things her way because she believes her way to be the right way. This will definitely frustrate us from time to time, but what’s love without a little bit of frustration?

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