Zara Barrie

Bio

Zara Barrie is a senior writer for Elite Daily. She's consumed by style, sexuality, women, words, fashion and feelings. She identifies as a "mascara lesbian" and lives beyond her means on the Upper East Side of Manhattan.

Stop Getting Possessive Over Your Lesbian BFF When She's Trying To Get Laid

Attention self-identified straight women who have at least one lesbian friend: Do not — I repeat — DO NOT get possessive over your lesbian friend when she's trying to get laid. Don't hold her hand at a Pride after party. Don't act bitchy toward the…

The Identity Crisis Of Being A Lesbian Who Hates Sports

I'll never, ever forget my first big-time lesbian crush. I was a lowly sixth grader and the object of my obsession, Cleo*, was a wildly popular eighth grader. I spent my days admiring her from afar, but cool Cleo was in no way aware of my…

30 Fears I Have About Marriage Now That I'm 30

“When I get married, I'm going to have the most glam wedding EVER!” I used to croon to my best friend Ruba when we were in our early 20s. “When I get married, I'm not going to wear white. I'm going to wear black, and my nuptials will take place in…

5 Bizarre Misconceptions Femme Lesbians Deal With In The Dating World

Lesbians are often divided into two (very dated and overly-simplistic) categories: “femme” and “butch.” Since the moment I came bounding out that dark, repressive closet, the jury quickly charged me with being a "femme." “Oh my God, you're such a…

This Is Your Naughtiest Sexual Fetish, Based On Your Personality Type

For the longest time, I couldn't figure out why I liked to be so fiercely dominated in the bedroom. I mean, I'm a very assertive woman! I get off on being in control of my own life. I'm my own boss, and I've been described as ambitious from the time…

10 Ways To Turn Your Pale Winter Complexion Into A Summer Glow Without Tanning

I don't know how it happened, and I don't know when it happened, but spring has sprung, darlings. I went on a plane to Florida two weeks ago, and I clearly remember furiously dragging my suitcase through the icy streets of Manhattan as I shivered,…

30 Toxic Relationships You Need To Cut Out Of Your Life By 30

I used to secretly pride myself in how dynamic and multifaceted my eclectic group of "friends" was. I was that girl who let anyone and everyone into her orbit. I rubbed elbows with teenage junkies, called emotionally abusive, misogynistic boy…

5 Ways To Escape Your Anxiety-Ridden Mind Without Self-Medicating

I used to be so intensely anxious all of the time that I would pop benzodiazepines into my mouth like they were breath mints. “Benzodiazepines” are in the Xanax, Klonopin and Valium family of psychotropic drugs. They're used to treat anxiety…

5 Signs It's Time For You To Break Up With Your Therapist

After reading this headline, you're probably thinking to yourself, "Signs it's time to dump your therapist? Who does this bitch think she is?" Maybe you're a therapist yourself, or you're the protective child of a fabulous therapist. But please,…

5 Signs It Might Be Time To Try Antidepressants If Nothing Else Is Working

There is such a stigma in our culture surrounding antidepressants that for years, I didn't tell anyone I was taking them to treat my major depressive disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder. I can't tell you how many times I've kept my mouth…