Sara Caliva

I am just a crazy actress/writer/graphic designer trying to be famous or happy. Whichever comes first. I'm obsessed with coffee, toy poodles named Bronte, superheroes, rom-coms, and sarcasm. Oh and I have a one-woman show called How to Be Fabulous [in an unfabulous world] You can check out even more of ramblings at justanotherhowto.wordpress.com

4 Specific Emotions Only Women With Sisters Can Understand

A few summers ago, my sister and I had been regularly hanging out with a group of friends. One of the guys in the group usually brought his brother out with us too, so we were a little surprised when said brother didn't show up one night. We pressed…

Why A Guy Being Jealous Doesn't Actually Prove He Cares About You

I used to think the key to knowing a guy cared about me was how jealous he would get over another dude. Most likely, watching too many fairytales – coupled with my bizarre obsession with duels – was the cause of this highly misinformed theory. I…

Why Drastically Changing Your Hair Is Exactly What You Need After A Breakup

All my life, I have directly linked feeling free with doing something slightly impulsive. That goes for when I'm feeling hurt or lost especially. I don't do anything too crazy — just enough to make me feel like I'm Elphaba "defying gravity"...…

3 Chivalrous Things A Guy Should Always Do On A First Date And 3 To Avoid

The more I go on first dates, the more I find myself making mental lists of things I will and won't put up with. OK, I'll be honest, I'm talking about actual pro-con lists that I write down on napkins while my date is in the bathroom. Don't judge,…

5 Ways Being Single Is The Best Thing To Happen To Your Career

Every job I have ever had, at some point or another, took a backseat to my relationship. This doesn't mean I have never achieved career success. It just feels impossible to thrive at work while juggling the scheduling and drama that comes with a…

Why My Goals In 2017 Don't Include Finding Love

Yes, 2016 was a bitch of a year. We've had countless celebrities pass away, an election that feels devastating for many of us, horrible violence against each other in this country, horrible violence in other countries and the list goes on. The year…

Everything I Want To Say To The Man Who Decided To Follow Me Home

I hate being scared. I know many people say it's normal and it keeps you alert, and I'm sure that's true, but I hate it nonetheless. I force myself to take elevators even though I'm claustrophobic because I hate when fear wins. I look down when I'm…

Why I Begrudgingly Decided To Vote For Hillary Clinton

Roughly two weeks ago, I had an epiphany while driving. I realized that I'm going to vote for Hillary Clinton. As someone who was raised to follow God first and then the elephant, this was a pretty unnerving conclusion. But, for the first time since…

I Dated A Nice Guy After An Abusive Relationship, But He Didn't 'Save' Me

It started with a three-hour date, which consisted mainly of my taking his phone and then awkwardly staring at his features while making him a Bitmoji. It ended a couple of months later with a brief text conversation and wishing each other well. It…

This Is What Wearing My Headphones Means To Me, As A Woman

I'm a woman. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm a daughter, sister, neighbor and I am a friend. And quite frequently, being all of those things can be exhausting. That's not to say that I don't love who I am or the people in my life, but sometimes I need to…

5 Reasons A Mojito Is The Perfect Drink To Order On A First Date

I like to consider myself a bit of a mojito connoisseur, which really means I like to drink them a lot. I'll always order one at a new restaurant, just to see if it's up to snuff. I'm actually not a huge fan of rum, but I absolutely love the taste…

Why I'm Happy My Ex Married The Woman He Cheated on Me With

I can't pretend that I wasn't pretty upset when I first found out that the man I'd always thought I was going to marry was walking down the aisle with someone else. And not just anyone, but the woman that he had cheated on me with. The woman that…

I Stayed In An Abusive Relationship Because I Thought We Would Make It

I found my perfect guy at 28. It happened a little later than I had hoped, but it was worth the wait. He was the guy who sang showtunes with me in the car, the guy who was more romantic than I could possibly hope for and the guy who brought out my…

Why 'Scandal' Made Me Question If Women Really Can Have It All

This season of "Scandal" has been an interesting one. Putting aside my undying support for Jake, I have tried to accept that Fitz and Olivia have a love that just can't be denied. I have tried to get on board because I thought I'd be watching a…

20 Things Every Guy Needs To Know Before Dating An Actress

Actresses are known for being beautiful and creative. There's no question why men are drawn to them. But does your average Joe know what it takes to keep a lovely free spirit happy (and calm)? Here are some fun tips to keep the drama on the…