John Picciuto

New Jersey based writer. Can find more of his work at www.johnpicciuto.com

How Turning 30 Taught Me It's Okay To Not Have My Sh*t Together

By John Picciuto
So, let’s talk perspective for a moment. On December 17, I’ll have been on this planet a marvelous 30 years. That's roughly 10,958 days, 262,968 hours and (give or take) 15,778,090 minutes. That’s a lot of time. It’s funny because if you’ve never…

It Hurts Me, Too: What Breaking Up Is Like From A Guy's Perspective

By John Picciuto
There’s always that lengthy duration of sadness, regret and fear when a relationship ends. You look back at the time spent and wonder what you could have done differently. Was there anything more you could do? Was she the one? Was your inability to…

5 Archaic Rules Of Dating That We Should Abandon All Together

By John Picciuto
The old adage goes, “good things come to those who wait.” I think this is complete and utter bullsh*t. In dating, the waiting game is just a brain implosion waiting to happen. There are rules that govern every aspect of dating, none of which impose…

How Our Addiction To Social Media Is Slowly Erasing Our Offline Presences

By John Picciuto
The photo of my dog I posted to Instagram is up to 30 likes — Yahtzee! My tweet about the mumbling homeless man doing the moonwalk just got 17 retweets — score! And all the while, throughout the excitement I earnestly glean from social media…

Dating More Than One Person At Once: The Juggling Act That Is Gen-Y Dating

By John Picciuto
There seems to be an ever-increasing proclivity for Gen-Yers to date more than one person at a time. In principle for the age group I’m talking about, part of me understands the inclination for such an arrangement. It’s a hookup culture we live in…

Why It's Okay To Feel Lost In The World Of Relationships

By John Picciuto
You’re 23. No, wait; maybe you’re 24. And right now you feel lost. You feel alone. As you sit reading this, you don’t know whether the person you’re with is the one, or just one of the good ones (cc: “A Bronx Tale”). You don’t know if you should…

Why Millennials Feel The Pressure To Be Married By 30

By John Picciuto
I'm 27 years old and, in the next year, will be in four weddings, two of which I'll be the best man. What this really has me wondering is why everyone aged from 21 to 30 years old is finding this age bracket as the ideal and necessary time to stroll…

Why It's Okay To Be Cocky And Confident, Even If You're Not

By John Picciuto
There are many things I don't understand about women (that's evident, I'm sure). But there is one thing in particular that has recently blown my mind. I was talking to a girlfriend of mine (a female friend), who is someone I absolutely consider a…

Knowing What He Wants: What Do Gen-Y Men Consider The New 'Hot'?

By John Picciuto
It's almost 2014, and I’m left wondering what “hot” means anymore when it comes to a woman. What are guys attracted to in this generation? What turns us on? Is it still the “Baywatch” version of Pam Anderson? Are we still turned on by big-breasted…

Lost In Translation: How Poor Communication Is Hindering Our Dating Lives

By John Picciuto
Honestly, who’s going to argue with me that nowadays people just don’t know how to communicate with one another? Texting, emailing, emojis, Facebook, Twitter - every form of communication is now geared towards short, non-intimate communication. Why…

The Two People In A Relationship: The Settler And The Reacher

By John Picciuto
Every relationship has what “How I Met Your Mother” has dubbed a settler and a reacher. In other words, one person in the relationship settles for the other, who is involved in a relationship with someone out of his or her league, the settler. Now,…

The Unfortunate Status Of Broken Girls And The Only Way They Can Be Unbroken

By John Picciuto
Something I have managed to stumble upon, unfortunately a lot more than I would like, is an alarmingly increasing number of women who believe they’re too damaged from their pasts for happiness in the present. First of all, aside from the obvious…

Is Monogamy Becoming Less A Thing Of The Past And More Prevalent For Gen-Y?

By John Picciuto
For almost every single species on this planet except for humans, monogamy does not exist. While I have no evidence to back this up, it wouldn’t be surprising if it really were true. But in all seriousness, with monogamy as uncommon as it is, why is…

Why Chivalry Is Dead, From A Man's Perspective

By John Picciuto
In the hookup culture we now live in, it's pretty obvious that chivalry is completely dead. Maybe my parents were old fashioned, maybe growing up in a tight knit Italian family resulted in different values, but I was always preached the value of…

What Do Men Really Want?

By John Picciuto
Where the hell is the female equivalent of Mel Gibson when I'm asked this question? I want a woman to be able to read my mind and hear what I'm thinking, so she can convince me that she's my soul mate and everything I've been waiting for, someone to…

The Truth Behind Open Relationships

By John Picciuto
Somehow, at some point, men convinced women that an "open relationship" was what their fledgling relationship needed. At some point, men created a situation in which we were still "together" but hey, we're both allowed to hookup with other people.…