What's The Best First Message To Send A Guy On Tinder? Men Reveal Their Favorites

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Until I joined dating apps and started seeing men kick off conversations with me with everything from "hi" to pickup lines too obscene to reprint here, I didn't even realize that men were quote-unquote "supposed" to make the first move, as dictated by decades or centuries or maybe even millennia of ingrained social norms. My mom made the first move on my dad by tapping him on the shoulder on a crowded dance floor and asking, "Don't I know you from somewhere?" (Way to go, Mom.) But outside singles' mixer dance parties in 1987, men typically send the first message on dating apps. And so when women get the ball rolling, a lot of guys really appreciate the gesture. What's the best first message to send a guy? Well, I asked a bunch of them.

According to the nine guys below, injecting a little humor into your first message is an awesome way to impress your match. Some guys vouched for the straightforward, sexual pickup line. Others recalled loving out-of-the-box, quirky statements that grabbed their attention because they were so unusual. And one even recommended messaging a simple "hey" to take the pressure off your match.

Whatever route you choose, know that sending the first message automatically makes you stand out from the crowd. And once you get into the habit of initiating conversations, you might never want to sit back passively ever again.

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The line:

So, for our first date, I tried to get us reservations at the library... but they were all booked.

Why he liked it:

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— Ari, 24

The line:

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I have a vagina.

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— Matt, 24

The line:

Fun or future?
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Why he liked it:

— Elad, 27

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The line:

I just regained my sight and the first thing I saw this match.

Why he liked it:

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— Matt, 23

The line:

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Hey.

Why he liked it:

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— Jose, 24

The line:

Can you hit me with your car?
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Why he liked it:

— Connor, 23

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The line:

You eat healthy, too. Going out to eat will be so easy! And I'd love to watch Game of Thrones with you all winter.

Why he liked it:

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— Edwin, 26

The line:

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I'm gonna ride your mustache.

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— Nick, 24

The line:

On our first date, I’ll carve our initials into an oak tree because it’s the most romantic way to let you know I have a knife with me.
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Why he liked it:

— Billy, 26

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Gotta go, I'm gonna steal some of these lines for my next conversation.

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