Face it: Breakups suck.
Whether you're the one doing the breaking up or the one being broken up with, we can all agree breakups are not fun for anyone involved.
And burying your emotions under countless desserts and distracting yourself from reality seems like the easiest thing to do when you're upset. Hollywood even depicts endless sobbing and binge-eating as the norm after a bad breakup.
But as a girl who has had her fair share of breakups, I've learned a thing or two about how to get over them.
I say screw what the movies say, and be in charge of your own breakup. Learn from every heartache, and come out on top after your breakup with these tips:
1. Mourn your breakup.
First things first: You can't deny your breakup is real. It happened, so now what? Cry.
Cry as much as you need to. It's perfectly normal and healthy to let yourself feel your emotions instead of trying to bury them under a pint of gelato.
Take as much time as you need to mourn, whether it be two days or two weeks. Everyone mourns in their own way, and only you will know when you've mourned your breakup completely.
It might be the last thing you want to do, but exercising will help. Trust me.
Getting your blood pumping and releasing endorphins is the best way to feel better about yourself. Yes, eating a roll of cookie dough makes you feel good in the moment, but ultimately, working out will be best for your emotional and physical health.
3. Try something new.
Be impulsive. Do something crazy. Don't think twice about it — just do it.
When I got my heart broken, I felt numb inside. I was unable to move on, and nothing made me feel better. Then, I saw a video of someone skydiving, and before I could question what I was doing, I was putting a nonrefundable deposit down for a skydiving lesson that weekend.
I told a few friends about my plan, but left my mom and dad out of the loop, so no one would try to convince me not to do it.
There was something therapeutic about my spontaneous decision that helped me get over my heartbreak. Even better, I crossed something off my bucket list, and I realized there was more to life than a boy.
One of the best ways to avoid stalking your ex on Instagram is to keep yourself busy. So why not help yourself in the name of a good cause? Whether it's helping animals or children, pick a cause you're passionate about, and go all out for it.
5. Reinvent yourself.
My favorite thing to do after a breakup is get a makeover. In the beginning of a relationship, you're obviously always looking your best. However, the longer the relationship goes on, the more comfortable and complacent you might get.
Breakups are the perfect reason to splurge on a new look. Go get that new shirt that costs a little too much or get your hair done. When you look good, you feel good.
6. Do you.
Breakups can sometimes be blessings in disguise. For some reason, this person was not the one for you. And if you were dumped out of the blue, you might have been blind to the signs of an unhealthy relationship.
I always try to find the light in a dark situation (I promise you, there is some light in all heartbreak), but what's most important to remember at this time is, you don't need somebody else to validate your self-worth.
This is a time for you to do you. Go out with your girls or your bros because you deserve it. Work on your relationships in other aspects of your life. Work on being a better version of yourself because, let's be honest, we all have room to grow.
Allow yourself to be emotional, take care of yourself, challenge yourself, give back and live life on your terms. Ultimately, this will make you a happier person and create an even better version of yourself.
Like I said, there's always light in a dark situation. And once you're ready, you can start swiping right again.
This article was originally published on Spoon University.