10 Messages To Send Your Bumble Match

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Sometimes, it's hard to break the ice on a dating app and figure out what to say first, especially on Bumble where it's up to you to initiate conversation.

I don't know about you, but I'm not really used to hitting on men. I don't go up to them in bars and ask, "So, are you from around here?" And if you're not used to doing it in real life, it's hard to suddenly start doing it on an app.

If you're suffering from dater's block and have no clue what to say while messaging, here are 10 openers to send to your Bumble match to get the conversation started.

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1. "We Did It!"

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This is a good way to start the conversation with positivity and enthusiasm. Plus, it makes matching with you seem like an accomplishment. You start things off positive and happy, and using the term "we" sort of already establishes you guys as a team.

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SUBLIMINAL MESSAGING FOR THE WIN.

2. "You're So Cute :)"

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You like being told you're attractive by someone you like, right?

Well, newsflash, guys like it, too. Additionally, he's then essentially forced to compliment you back.

But after you exchange compliments, make sure you move the conversation away from surface level things, or this kind of dynamic can quickly move to just a hook-up zone (read: sexting).

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3. "Where Have You Been!"

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After you send this one, he'll probably say something like, "Waiting for you!"

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On Bumble, if you say something as simple as "hi," it's easy to slip quickly into the friend zone and blur into the background of a thousand other hellos.

But if you start off with a little bit of flirtation, it's a good way to distinguish yourself from the pack.

4. "Does This Mean We're Married Now?"

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Never leave me, 'cause I'll find youuuuuu!

I've had guys say this to me, and I think it's light and cute. It shows you have a good sense of humor and establishes a flirtatious dynamic, and because it's a question, it warrants some sort of a response.

5. "Knock Knock..."

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"Who's there?"

"Me! How are you?"

Starting off the conversation with a knock-knock joke is a foolproof way of getting a response back, even if it might make you look a little bit dorky. But hey, dorky can be endearing, right?

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6. Comment On Something In His Bio

Is his favorite food tacos? Tell him you like tacos, too.

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I once matched with a guy who told me he liked to eat string cheese. I asked him if he strung it or ate it in full bites, because only a sociopath would take bites out of string cheese. Now, we're in love!

Just kidding, we're not in love. But we've been on a few dates, and it was a good conversation starter.

7. Comment On One Of His Pictures

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Make sure you ask an open-ended question, like "Is that your kid, or did you just steal him to look cute?"

You could also comment on an activity you both like to do: "I see you like hiking! Me too."

Or, you can just say, "Picture number three is my favorite," and maybe he'll ask you why.

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8. Send Him A Deal Breaker

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Don't send real ones, like "I definitely want kids, and if you don't want them, don't even think of responding."

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Instead, go with something along the lines of "Do you like pineapples on your pizza? Because if you do, this will never work."

It'll potentially lead to a fun, lively debate that you two can continue in person.

9. Message Him A Cute GIF

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It's never a bad idea to choose a GIF of a puppy. I mean, who would turn down a message that included a picture of a puppy?

10. Ask Him Why He Swiped Right On You

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Because we all want to know anyway, right?

Most likely, he will answer earnestly and authentically, and that will set the tone for an authentic, complimentary conversation, where you can begin talking about what attracted you to one another.

That will immediately elevate the conversation from something friendly to romantic, which will probably help you lock in a date ASAP.

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So next time you're figuring out how to start a conversation with that guy on Bumble, why not try out one of these openers? Let me know how it goes in the comments.

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